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Category Archives: WIR2006

Celebrating Lyric Poetry

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 28, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Stan Sanvel Rubin’s third collection of poems, Hidden Sequel, the winner of the 2006 Barrow Street Poetry Prize, contains this opening epigraph: No, my heart is not sleeping, It is awake. Awake.” –Machado Right from the start, in the beat … Continue reading →

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LiveJournal Blogging

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 21, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

My daughter Emily is a Computational Linguistics Professor. One thing this means is that she spends a lot of time on the computer. She has found a way to keep a diary about her two little boys and the life … Continue reading →

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Sailing the High Seas of the Publishing World

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 14, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Caroline Arnold graduated from Grinnell College in Iowa where she majored in art. After graduate school at the University of Iowa, she worked as an artist and art teacher for a number of years. Her writing career began in the … Continue reading →

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Community and the Work of the Poet

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 7, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

At this past summer’s Writing It Real in Port Townsend writer’s conference, Susan Rich spoke to the conference group about building a writer’s community and finding a place in the world based on one’s passion for poetry. This week, I’ve … Continue reading →

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On Cures Include Travel, Poems by Susan Rich

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 30, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Susan Rich taught for the Writing It Real in Port Townsend’s summer writing conference last June. At the conference, she read from the poems that were soon to be published by White Pine Press in the volume entitled Cures Include … Continue reading →

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On Lurches and Launches: Narrative of a Book Launch

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 24, 2006 by Kit BakkeDecember 5, 2011

Everyone wants to help. Everyone has advice. My audiences split along the divide of wanting to know more about Louisa May Alcott, wanting to know more about me or wanting to know more about the genesis of the book (that’s … Continue reading →

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Getting Around Concord

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 17, 2006 by Kit BakkeOctober 19, 2013

From Miss Alcott’s E-mail: Yours for Reforms of All Kinds by Kit Bakke. Reprinted by permission of David R. Godine, Publisher Copyright 2006 by Kit Bakke It was a wild, windy day, very like me in its fitful changes of … Continue reading →

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Miss Alcott’s Email: Yours for Reforms of All Kinds by Kit Bakke

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Miss Alcott’s Email: Yours for Reforms of All Kinds is a remarkable memoir by Kit Bakke about a political activist, mother, nurse and management consultant’s midlife review interwoven with a biography of her political and literary soul mate Louisa May … Continue reading →

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Dealing with Toxic Feedback

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 3, 2006 by Joni ColeDecember 5, 2011

Last week, we shared a chapter from Joni Cole’s book, Toxic Feedback: Helping Writers Survive and Thrive, published in 2006 by University Press of New England, Hanover, New Hampshire. This week, I talk with Joni about writing the book. Sheila … Continue reading →

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Getting Feedback – Twenty-Two Years

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 26, 2006 by Joni ColeDecember 5, 2011

Reprinted with permission of the author from Toxic Feedback: Helping Writers Survive and Thrive, University of New England, 2006 Chapter Two: Getting Feedback — Twenty-Two Years By Joni Cole One time I went with a friend of a friend to … Continue reading →

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The Pocket Poetry Parenting Guide

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 19, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Last March, I attended the annual National Association of Poetry Therapists conference in Boston. Browsing the vendor tables, I discovered Jennifer Bosveld’s offering, The Pocket Poetry Parenting Guide. It presents a short but impressive collection of poetry for use in … Continue reading →

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Thoughts Upon the Birthday of My Son Seth, 1975-2000

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 12, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

My son Seth Bender, to whom Writing It Real is dedicated, would have turned 31 this October 1. He died in a snowboarding accident December 27, 2000, the year he was 25. In the months following the tragedy, the only … Continue reading →

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Making Metaphor Run Deep

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 5, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Writing from our experience gives us the opportunity to know more after the writing than we knew in the experiencing alone. When we can combine our experiencing of outer events with our experiencing of inner events, using the outer as … Continue reading →

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Decoys

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 28, 2006 by Brenda MillerDecember 2, 2011

This week, we offer a third essay by Brenda Miller, in which she skillfully uses an chance meeting to draw a metaphor that allows her to more deeply reflect upon herself as a writer. Again, the weaving of the outer … Continue reading →

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On Thermostats

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 21, 2006 by Brenda MillerDecember 2, 2011

Last week, we posted Brenda Miller’s essay about how making metaphor both removes us from the moment we are in and sets us more deeply into meditation, helping us know ourselves and our inner worlds. In “On Thermostats,” she once … Continue reading →

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The Case Against Metaphor: An Apologia

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 14, 2006 by Brenda MillerDecember 2, 2011

“Writing it all down,” is the phrase that ends Brenda Miller’s essay. That’s what we strive to do as writers. It is an ambitious striving, a striving that forces us to question our experiences and ourselves–can we possibly write it … Continue reading →

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Teens Have Gifts to Offer

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 7, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

A few months ago, I received an email request to help spread the word about Scrap Paper Press’s worldwide call for creative writing submissions from teens. I went to the project’s website, was impressed with the effort, and posted the … Continue reading →

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Take Some Time for Playful Journaling, Part II

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 31, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

In a journal, writers write without knowing where their writing is going. They unload thoughts, explore obsessions, record insights and observations, and sometimes imitate other writers, noticing how their perceptions come across in the voice and sentence structures of those … Continue reading →

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Take Some Time for Playful Journaling

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 24, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

As a writer, I use my journal to both play with strategies I pick up from other writers’ work and test strategies I invent. In combination with observing the “show don’t tell rule” (use imagery and detail that appeal to … Continue reading →

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Digesting World News August, 2006

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 17, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Every time I open Yahoo on my computer, I look at the upper right-hand corner of the screen to type in what I am searching for and avoid looking at the left-hand area with its news images of death and … Continue reading →

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Keeping Your Computer Organized

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 10, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

A month ago, when I asked Writing It Real subscribers if they would like an article on technical computer issues writers face, there was a big response. Almost all the comments were about hard drive organization: Any tips you can … Continue reading →

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The Limits of Skepticism

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 3, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

describes a time of not writing but enjoying the garden of a rented London apartment.  Her husband thinks she is avoiding her writing, but actually she is cultivating it. Sometimes writing is allowing the senses in without direction. In the … Continue reading →

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Interview with Joan Weimer

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 27, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Joan Weimer’s second memoir, Awestruck: A Skeptic’s Pilgrimage, just out this year, opens with a dramatic prologue: The plane is so near the ground I can make out individual palm trees, their fronds whipped into a frenzy by a tremendous … Continue reading →

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Getting to the Details

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 20, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

I am fortunate to have the opportunity to work with people in developing their essays. Writing It Real subscriber Beth Einstein entered our spring essay contest and recently took me up on my offer to work with her essay for … Continue reading →

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Overcoming Writing Inertia

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 13, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Recently, I read Writing Brave & Free: Encouraging Words for People Who Want to Start Writing by Steve Cox and Ted Kooser to learn how they encourage others who want to write. As always with books on writing, I am … Continue reading →

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You are My Heroes

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 6, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

It isn’t an easy path to write from personal experience. There are no guarantees that editors will want to publish what we have to say and no guarantees that we will successfully find a way to say it, publication or … Continue reading →

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The Freelance Writer’s Bible by David Trottier

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 29, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

A lot of books claim they can help authors who are in a hurry to get paid for their writing. This one is enthusiastically subtitled Your Guide to a Profitable Writing Career Within One Year, and it certainly does include … Continue reading →

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Bio for Maria Moustakas

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 22, 2006 by Maria MoustakasJuly 5, 2018

Maria Moustakas began writing poetry and stories while in the third grade. She did not reach college until her late 30s, earning a scholarship to Vassar College, where she graduated with an English degree in 1979. While at Vassar, participated … Continue reading →

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On Writing True: The Art and Craft of Creative Nonfiction

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 22, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

In their book, Writing True: The Art and Craft of Creative Nonfiction, writers and writing professors Sondra Perl and Mimi Schwartz offer a straightforward, encouraging look at how any of us can write our own moving and insightful accounts of … Continue reading →

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It’s a Short Trip to Guilderland

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 15, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Most of the time, I am one of the most annoyingly politically correct people I know. I am so PC that even the word “tolerance” strikes me as a tad intolerant. But there is one minority group I can’t stand, … Continue reading →

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The House of the Seven Gambles – Revised

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 8, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

When I judged Mary Ann Payne’s essay submitted for Writing It Real’s first 2006 personal essay contest as our runner up, I wrote to her with comments about her ending and ideas for strengthening it.   Here is the essay she … Continue reading →

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Alan Should Have Rented a Car

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 1, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This essay is reprinted here from Thoughts from a Queen-Sized Bed by Mimi Schwartz by permission of the University of Nebraska Press. Copyright 2002 by Mimi Schwartz. Available wherever books are sold or from the University of Nebraska Press, 800.526.2617 … Continue reading →

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Writing About Family: Is It Worth It?

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 25, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This article originally appeared in The Writer’s Chronicle, October/November 2001 I made up my mind at the beginning of my writing life not to write about my family and friends, since I want them to remain my family and friends. … Continue reading →

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Q & A with Memoirist Mimi Schwartz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 18, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This week’s article begins with an excerpt from Mimi Schwartz’s memoir, Thoughts from a Queen-Sized Bed. Entitled “Jimmy and June, ” this second essay in the collection illustrates the way Mimi Schwartz writes about ordinary life to “get it just … Continue reading →

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An Interview with Sondra Perl Followed by an Exercise for Memoir Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 11, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Sheila Last week, in Writing It Real, I shared a section of your memoir, On Austrian Soil: Teaching Those I Was Taught to Hate with readers. I think the section we posted demonstrates the way your memoir developed from a … Continue reading →

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Excerpt from On Austrian Soil: Teaching Those I Was Taught to Hate

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 4, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

The following is excerpted with Sondra Perl’s permission from Chapter 2, “History Becomes Real”, of her memoir, On Austrian Soil: Teaching Those I Was Taught to Hate, published in 2005 by State University of New York Press, Albany, NY. Writing … Continue reading →

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On Deep Light, New and Selected Poems 1987 – 2007 by Rebecca McClanahan

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 20, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Already familiar with Rebecca McClanahan’s essays about her family from her book Riddle Song (as well as her other Writing It Real articles), I was delighted when I found that a new and selected volume of her poems was coming … Continue reading →

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Ted Kooser’s The Poetry Home Repair Manual

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 20, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

I’ve been teaching poetry writing since 1981, when I began working on my Masters in Creative Writing at the University of Washington. As a teacher, I have continually applied all that I learned through trial and error creating and revising … Continue reading →

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Becoming a Haiku Poet

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 13, 2006 by Michael WelchMarch 26, 2014

Last week, you read Michael Welch’s instruction on writing haiku. This week you’ll learn more about haiku and publishing from a transcript of my email interview with him. It includes the treat of some of Michael’s poems at the end … Continue reading →

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Lasting: Poems on Aging, Edited by Meg Files

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 6, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Which of us has not looked intently at the markings of age in others and then looked for those markings in ourselves? Which of us doesn’t hope for some wisdom to come along with the signs of aging? Which of … Continue reading →

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Keeping a Writer’s Journal

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 30, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Writers write. A journal is way to do that, without knowing where you are going with the writing, to unload thoughts, obsessions, insights and observations, and sometimes to imitate other writers, seeing how your perceptions might come across in the … Continue reading →

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27 More Tips for Writers (76-102)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 23, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

If you don’t know how to start a piece of writing about a person, try remembering something that person believed. Write that belief out and attribute it to the person. What can you write that bounces off of those words? … Continue reading →

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A Personal Essay and a Contest It Inspires

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 16, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This week’s article is an essay by one of our treasured correspondents with a contest announcement for Writing It Real subscribers inspired by the essay. Janice Eidus’ essay was to have appeared in an anthology that explored the theme and … Continue reading →

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Four Writers on Writing, Part 2

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 9, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

We pick up where the email thread left off last week. Sheila starts: I wanted to respond to what Lisa said: “And I wanted to raise this idea about how writing has repercussions that go far beyond whether you are … Continue reading →

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Four Writers on Writing, Publishing and How Their Careers Are Shaping Up

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 2, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

In the fall, I consulted with freelance, technical and creative writer, Michelle Goodman about publishing with regional presses. By way of thank you, she arranged for two other writers to join her in an email conversation with me about themselves, … Continue reading →

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Writing from Anticipation

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 20, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Here in the Northwest, despite the unusually cold temperatures we recently experienced, daffodils, crocuses and blossoming fruit trees add yellow, purple and pink to our current landscape. And under a week of consistently sunny skies, we find ourselves anticipating spring. … Continue reading →

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25 More Tips for Writers (51-75)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 16, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Always take some time to read what you are writing aloud after you have finished a draft. Note the places that are hard to say or seem to go flat or inspire you. Try taking out the flat spots, extending … Continue reading →

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SELF-Esteem and the SELF-Published Author

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 9, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Hannah Goodman is the author of My Sister’s Wedding, a young adult novel that addresses the effects of alcoholism on individuals, friends and families. She self-published it in 2004 (a sample chapter appears in the WIR Gallery) and now often … Continue reading →

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Fatherhats

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 2, 2006 by Jack HeffronDecember 5, 2011

After reading Jack’s instruction last week about narrating a day in your life to find material, you will be interested in looking into this story to find the quantity of details that come from such close observation, from the way … Continue reading →

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A Day in the Life of a Writer

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 26, 2006 by Jack HeffronDecember 5, 2011

Jack Heffron’s simple, masterful writing prompt will have you realizing how much content you have to write about in no time–well, in the time it takes to live a day and read the notes you put on paper. Taking notes … Continue reading →

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Relying on the Lyric

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 19, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

On July 8, 2004, I posted an instructional exercise article, “Put Summer on the Page,” encouraging writers to use the opening of Ray Bradbury’s novel Dandelion Wine for inspiration in writing their own memories. Recently, I worked with Michelle Vanstrom … Continue reading →

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Poems, Pastries and Politics

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 12, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Why connect the writing of poetry with an appreciation of good food? On first consideration, the juxtaposition of poems and pastries might seem frivolous. Isn’t poetry sustenance for something more than the physical body? Recently, I taught a workshop at … Continue reading →

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Ten Signs of a Scam Book Doctor

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 5, 2006 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Long time professional editor, Jerry Gross developed a widely used code of ethics for editors and book doctors. Here are his 10 points to consider when evaluating someone to work with you on your manuscript. Ten Signs Of A Scam … Continue reading →

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Working with a Writing Mentor

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 20, 2003 by Janice EidusMay 13, 2018

As a writing instructor, it is always interesting to me to talk with other writers who teach.  I enjoy hearing about the parts of the teaching process that excite them.  This past June, I had the opportunity to talk over … Continue reading →

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