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Category Archives: WIR2008

Interview with Margaret D. McGee

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 25, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Shortly after reading Margaret D. McGee’s gentle, focused book Sacred Attention: A Spiritual Practice for Finding God in the Moment, I emailed her with some questions about her writing and about publishing in the spiritual genre. She graciously wrote back, … Continue reading →

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Finding the Sacred Through Careful Attention

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 18, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

When author Margaret D. McGee moved with her husband David into a house in the woods on the Olympic Peninsula, she started keeping a nature journal. As she formed the practice of writing short entries a few times a week, … Continue reading →

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A Writing Lesson from the Journaling Ideas of Author David Mas Masumoto

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 11, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

This time of year we cope with a lot of activity. Social engagements and gift shopping, worrying about how to spread a gift buying budget around and the need to travel distances or entertain out-of-town family sweep away our writing … Continue reading →

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Fallow Time

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 27, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

[From What I Thought I Knew, Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, Inc., 2008] Faint light is leaking through the bedroom mini-blinds, but there’s no good reason to get out of bed. It’s late winter in Southern Indiana. The sodden ground is blotched with … Continue reading →

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Interview with the Author of What I Thought I Knew

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 20, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

What I Thought I Knew is a gorgeous collection of life-, love- and spirit-affirming personal essays. In the preface to her book, Barbara Stahura says it this way: Sometimes, I wake up early in my grown-up bed, windows open around … Continue reading →

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The Enneagram and Me: Writing Is My Spiritual Practice

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 13, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

In 1988, while I was living in Berkeley with my husband Kurt, who was on a computer network assignment, I came across a book: The Enneagram: An Ancient system for Understanding Yourself and Others in Your Life,by Helen Palmer. I … Continue reading →

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Buttons

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 6, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

In July, Nina Soifer sent three poems into the Writing It Real No-Contest Contest. I was very taken with “Buttons,” a poem that evokes specific childhood time the young poet spent with her grandmother: Buttons Sometimes when I look at … Continue reading →

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An Escalating Din

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 30, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

[This week we present the second place winner in our first No-Contest Contest. The work Nicole Janeen Jones sent in moved me very much. Most of the essay was fluid and kept me engaged in the weightiness of Nicole’s subject … Continue reading →

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A New Way to Publish

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 16, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This article appeared on May 26 2008 among the article archive on the valuable NAWW.org website. Having met Penny several years ago at the Whidbey Island Writer’s Conference, I already admired her energy and support for writers. Her information in … Continue reading →

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Making Historic Time Real

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 9, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Recently, I heard from author Linda Collison in response to a Writing It Real e-mailing. Linda and I had met years ago during a visit my husband and I made to the Big Island in Hawaii. She and her husband … Continue reading →

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Why Do You Write? How Do You Write? – Part 2

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 2, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

After Rodney Merrill received my answers to his questions about writing and my motivation to write, he sent me an interesting letter about his writing process and his knowledge of what those who study writers say. And he asked me … Continue reading →

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Why Do You Write? How Do You Write?

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 25, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Last fall, doctoral candidate Rodney Merrill sent me a questionnaire about my approach to writing. He was surveying many writers while researching for his dissertation in the area of social constructionist views on writing. I was very taken with his … Continue reading →

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Glimmer Train Comes Through

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 18, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

Earlier this year, I submitted a story to Glimmer Train, a fine literary magazine that boasts, “Each quarterly issue presents about 260 pages of literary fiction—eight to twelve brand new stories by luminaries and fresh new voices making their way … Continue reading →

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Thoughts on How to Structure an Essay Collection

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 11, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

When Judith Kitchen, who is Assistant Program Director of Pacific Lutheran University’s Rainier Writing Workshop, suggested I might want to read a paper by graduating MFA student Hilary Schaper on organizing a collection of personal essays, I was delighted. I … Continue reading →

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Three Waters for Success

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 4, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

According to a Japanese Shinto tale, Enchin, a priest from Nara, was told in a vision to look for the clear water origin of the Yodo River. After a long search, he stumbled upon a place deep in a forest … Continue reading →

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Love Letters from a Fat Man by Naomi Benaron

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 28, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

Author Stuart Dybeck was the final judge for the 2006 G.S. Sharat Chandra Prize for Short Fiction. I imagine his delight when he read Naomi Benaron’s original and moving collection Love Letters from a Fat Man. How could he not … Continue reading →

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Good Neighbors Bad Times by Mimi Schwartz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 21, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

When writer Mimi Schwartz hears a story during a trip to Israel that corroborates the one her late father used to tell, she is compelled to conduct an ambitious research project about her father’s birthplace, a village where, he said, … Continue reading →

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Today is Under Construction

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 14, 2008 by Sheila BenderJune 11, 2014

Built of timber over the years from 1601 to 1626 as a residence of the Tokugawa Shoguns, the Nijo Castle in Kyoto is preserved as a UNESCO World Heritage site. I walk in the July heat toward the building’s large … Continue reading →

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Collect Tidbits, Meditations and Musings

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 7, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 23, 2014

In this exercise, we are going to build an essay, piece of fiction or a poem with inspiration from fiction writers Ron Carlson and Lisa Shea and poet Bill Matthews. You’ll start, without knowing where this might lead, by imitating … Continue reading →

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Sudden Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 31, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

One way to tackle subjects you may not feel up to handling is to learn from the strategies of writers who tell stories and/or evoke issues through the use of dialog alone. Their stories are often very short, striking the … Continue reading →

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The Flower That Splits the Rock

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 24, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Tell all the Truth but tell it slant by Emily Dickinson Tell all the truth but tell it slant— Success in Circuit lies Too bright for our infirm Delight The Truth’s superb surprise As Lightning to the Children eased With … Continue reading →

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An Interview with Nahid Rachlin, Part Two

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 17, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

[This week’s article continues the interview Sheila did with writer Nahid Rachlin for the May, 2008 AWP Chronicle. Part one Sheila What advice do you have for those writing from painful political and family backgrounds? Nahid My advice is that … Continue reading →

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An Interview with Nahid Rachlin

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 10, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This article originally appeared in the AWP Chronicle, May, 2008 Nahid Rachlin has published four novels, Jumping Over Fire, (City Lights), Foreigner (W.W. Norton), Married to a Stranger (E.P.Dutton), The Heart’s Desire (City Lights), and a collection of short stories, … Continue reading →

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In Our Hands by Arnold Arem, M.D.

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 26, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

“In 1833, British anatomist Sir Charles Bell published a book whose premise was that the very existence of the human hand proved the existence of God.” So opens Arnold (Arnie) Arem’s book In Our Hands: A Hand Surgeon’s Tales of … Continue reading →

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Writing Wisdom Gleaned from an Olympic Ski Coach

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 19, 2008 by Tarn WilsonJune 11, 2014

When my sister came to visit me this spring, she brought along her boss, Rob Roy, a former Olympic ski coach who lives in Bend, Oregon where he hikes, skis, and develops green building and affordable housing for seniors. I … Continue reading →

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Journaling Workshops for Parents

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 12, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

In Lucy Rector Filppu’s journaling classes for parents, men and women gather together to write, cry, laugh, listen, discover, and to learn about themselves and support one another. They arrive in class hoping to find themselves as parents — but … Continue reading →

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The Perfect Rock

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 5, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

“After Marisa’s first seizure, when the two of us were in the hospital, the nurse told me I was doing a great job, and that I was a wonderful mother.” I read the opening of Betsy MacWhinney’s essay and immediately … Continue reading →

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Grooming

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 29, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Mary Zelinka opens her essay “Grooming” with a statement that lets us know up front that she is going to tell us an emotional story: “I wanted to hate Papa Burke, but by then I loved him too much.” I … Continue reading →

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Becoming a Woman of Color

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 22, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

“Becoming a Woman of Color” by Rebecca Mabanglo-Mayor offers a satisfying and moving read. A lyric essay in structure, it is built in sections that each begin with a command: Imagine, Remember, Picture. The symmetry between beginning and ending the … Continue reading →

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Using Journals in Nonfiction Writing: Three Excellent Examples

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 15, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Those of us committed to seeing personal experience in print often consider our journal entries a valuable source and form for literature. Usually, we are thinking of mining our own journals and compiling selected entries, but the three books I … Continue reading →

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The Ungarnished Truth

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 8, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This week we are posting an excerpt from Ellie Mathews’ memoir The Ungarnished Truth. The excerpt is a kind of a how-to essay. Ellie details the winning recipe she entered into the 1998 Pillsbury Bake Off Contest, telling us how … Continue reading →

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An Interview with Jay Bates, Host of A River & Sound Review

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 1, 2008 by Jay BatesJune 11, 2014

This year, I have had the delightful experience of working with Tarn Wilson, who is finishing up her MFA this spring from Pacific Lutheran University’s Rainer Writing Workshop. Writing It Real subscribers have already benefited from her article on keeping … Continue reading →

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What Your Furniture Tells You

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 24, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

The following exercise presented by Writing It Real in Port Townsend Writer’s Conference faculty member Susan Rich is from a poetry-writing workshop she presented at our 2007 writers’ conference. We publish it this week as a finale to our celebration … Continue reading →

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Whit Press Founder Claudia Mauro Empowers Community Through the Literary Arts

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 17, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Last year, poet Susan Rich, a Writing It Real in Port Townsend Writers’ Conference faculty member, told conference goers that she was asked to become a Board member for Whit Press in Seattle. She was pleased about helping a press … Continue reading →

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Meg Files and the Poetry of Home

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 10, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

This week, in honor of National Poetry Month, we are proud to share an article by Writing It Real in Port Townsend Writers’ Conference faculty member Meg Files I have lived in three countries, in eight states, in fifteen cities, … Continue reading →

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Get Your Writing Going this National Poetry Month

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 3, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

With poetry, we mourn the passage of time, celebrate connections, yell out at injustice, cry from the pain of unrequited love and exclaim our joy in love and gratitude.  Over the years, I have known I would start poems because … Continue reading →

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The Story of a Century in the Pacific Northwest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 27, 2008 by Kit BakkeDecember 5, 2011

If you’ve been identified as the one in your family, neighborhood or group of colleagues who writes, you may find yourself called upon to create writing for projects you hadn’t imagined setting out to do. One such request could be … Continue reading →

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An Interview with Kate Kelsall

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 20, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Although trained as a clinical social worker and as a Certified Public Accountant, Kate Kelsall is currently writing and speaking and inspiring many with her twice weekly blog. Kate has Parkinson’s disease (PD) and through her efforts, many others with … Continue reading →

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Dotting the Dragon’s Eye

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 13, 2008 by Jack HeffronDecember 5, 2011

This week, Jack Heffron, writer, editor and faculty member for Writing It Real In Port Townsend’s annual late June writer’s conference, shares “Dot the Dragon’s Eye,” Chapter Seventeen in his instructional book The Writer’s Idea Workshop: How to make your … Continue reading →

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The Gestures I Remember Him By

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 6, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Winter is one of the birthday seasons in my family. Among those birthdays, my late father’s comes February 20 and then mine, March 6th. Growing up, I marveled about how both he and I were Pisces, when we seemed so … Continue reading →

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Learning the Art of Public Speaking Can Help Writers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 28, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

People have told me that fear of public speaking ranks high among the biggest fears we have. I know from my experience as a poet and writer who has given and attended readers for almost 30 years, that reading our … Continue reading →

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Mother’s Day

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 21, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Thelma Zirkelbach, who won an honorable mention in a previous Writing It Real personal essay contest, has a talent for evoking those she is close to. In this winning essay, she writes about her mother as she is today and … Continue reading →

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An Algebra Problem

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 14, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Our second place winner this time around is from Lebanon. Her teacher at the Beirut Evangelical School for Girls & Boys submitted several of her students’ essays. I was delighted to have chosen Nour’s essay as a winner and especially … Continue reading →

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Bad Dreams

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 7, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Our winning essay this winter is an account of events the year the author was 15. Her use of simple short sentences is especially effective for writing about childhood trauma and for reminding us about children’s disenfranchisement. More of my … Continue reading →

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Writing Childhood’s Dark Side

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 31, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

Writing It Real contributor Janice Eidus’ newest novel, The War of the Rosens, is the story of 10-year-old Emma Rosen, a thoughtful girl who is writing poetry amidst the anger, confusion and angst of her leftist and atheist father Leo, … Continue reading →

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A Found Exercise

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 3, 2008 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2011

You may have read that since 1976, Lake Superior State University in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula has published a yearly list of words/phrases to ban from the Queen’s English. This week, the school released words chosen from over 2000 nominations on … Continue reading →

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