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Category Archives: WIR2017

Endings Part II–Twists, Surprises, and Morals

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 21, 2018 by Sheila BenderJune 21, 2018

Here’s the second part of the series I created for Kahini’s Eleven Stories program. I hope you enjoy the short stories as you follow along on the included documents as I read. And, of course, I hope you enjoy my discussions … Continue reading →

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The Flash Sequence: A Form for Saying the Unsayable

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 1, 2018 by Sheila BenderFebruary 2, 2018

The flash sequence uses poetic leaps of association for examining the impact of difficult-to-articulate circumstances. Sometimes it is accomplished in journal entries, other times with meditations about place, or people or objects. Sometimes it is composed of collections of scenes. … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged personal essay, Trusting Images, writing exercises | 2 Replies

It’s Writing It Real 2018 Contest Entry Time!

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 28, 2017 by Sheila BenderDecember 28, 2017

Whether you are writing poetry, fiction or nonfiction, our first contest of 2018 is for you. The theme is: “A New Season.” And that can mean season of the year, turning over a new leaf, of one’s time in life, of … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2017 | 8 Replies

Writing to Remember and Be Joyful Even After Loss

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 21, 2017 by Sheila BenderDecember 21, 2017

The winter holidays are thought of as a time of joy, a time to chase away the northern hemisphere’s winter dark with lights, candles, sweets, gifts, gatherings and community festivities. To be sure, all of this is important, but for … Continue reading →

Posted in WIR2017 | 3 Replies

A Talk for All Writers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 7, 2017 by Sheila BenderDecember 7, 2017

Listening to successful children?s book writer Patrick Jennings during an interview with him for ?In Conversation: Discussions on Writing and the Writing Life,? I realized again how much authors of books for young readers have to teach all of us … Continue reading →

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Writers’ Strategies, Questions, And a Writing Exercise

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 7, 2017 by Sheila BenderDecember 7, 2017

A few years ago, I had the pleasure of interviewing memoirist and novelist Pam Houston. At the time of the interview, her book, Contents May Have Shifted, was Port Townsend?s Community Read. I did the taping on behalf of our … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, The Working Writer, WIR2017 | Tagged on writing, reading for writing, Trusting Images, writing exercises | Leave a reply

Write Your Own Manifesto

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 30, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 30, 2017

For several years now, I have been interviewing writers, editors, writing program directors and publishers for ?In Conversation: Discussions on Writing and the Writing Life,? my regular program on KPTZ FM radio. At Writing It Real, we archive the programs, … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, The Working Writer, WIR2017 | Tagged on writing, personal essay, reading for writing | 1 Reply

A Must Read for Personal Essayists: “Learning to Drive” by Katha Pollitt

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 16, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 16, 2017

This is a revised and updated article based on one from 2002 when I first read “Learning to Drive: A Year of Unexpected Lessons” by Katha Pollitt, published in The New Yorker magazine. I hope you’ll read the essay and go on to … Continue reading →

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Cider Mills and Burning Leaves: Writing Fall

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 9, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 9, 2017

For us in northern states, fall brings shorter daylight, leaves to rake and cider mills to visit where we sip fresh apple cider and eat sweet doughnuts. We fill a nip in the air. In warm climates, fall begins the … Continue reading →

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Self-Portrait, Self-Portrait on the Wall, A Writing Exercise

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 2, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 2, 2017

Years ago one of my writing students wrote this line in class, “Ms. Failure paints her self-portrait, then hangs it on a wall in your world without asking permission.” He was speaking, he told us, of a time when he … Continue reading →

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Existential Threat, an Article by Dahr Jamail

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 19, 2017 by Dahr JamailOctober 19, 2017

Writers write. Writers write to seek and tell truths, whether that is in poems, essays, memoir, fiction or articles. As writers, we must raise our voices in dark times, even when we think few are listening. I recently interviewed journalist … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, WIR2017 | Tagged Informational Writing | 3 Replies

What is Epistolary Writing? Why Write in Epistolary Form?

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 12, 2017 by Sheila BenderOctober 12, 2017

The word epistolary comes from the Greek epistol?, which means “letter.” Writers use the letter form in writing personal essays, poems, creative nonfiction and fiction because the form provides a ready-made container to hold an exploration of events and experiences. Writing in … Continue reading →

Posted in 2017, Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged personal essay, reading for writing, writing inspiration | 1 Reply

 On Finding Deep Power

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 5, 2017 by Sheila BenderOctober 5, 2017

What have writers shared about unleashing one?s best and most insightful creative work? G. Lynn Nelson, a professor of English at Arizona State University believes we must undo some of what we have been taught about language and use language … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged trust your writing, writing advice, writing inspiration | 5 Replies

One More Waltz, An Essay by Nancy Lamb

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 17, 2017 by Nancy LambSeptember 17, 2017

There are times in a person’s life when everything is tinted gray and the future looks too dark to step into. Then in one single shift of the universe, something happens—we turn left, instead of right; we answer the phone, … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2017 | Tagged personal essay, women's voices | 5 Replies

“Sanctuary,” an Essay by Nancy Lamb

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 17, 2017 by Nancy LambSeptember 17, 2017

All of us benefit from the memory of a place held dear. Such a memory keeps us breathing; such a memory calms our nerves; such a memory refreshes when life’s difficult times enervate us. Read Nancy Lamb’s well-drawn description of … Continue reading →

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Game Stories: A Prompt that Works

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 14, 2017 by Sheila BenderSeptember 14, 2017

Two weeks ago, I posted an article with writing ideas for getting started on new material and asked those who wanted to do so to send me accounts of the games they have played and enjoyed, especially in childhood. My … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2017 | Tagged writing exercises, writing inspiration | 3 Replies

Stage and Screen Prompts to Help Your Writing Craft

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 7, 2017 by Sheila BenderSeptember 7, 2017

Whether you have wanted to write a play or a screenplay or are involved in writing memoir, thinking like a playwright will help you tell a story well by writing in scenes, creating evolving characters (yourself and others in your … Continue reading →

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Hide & Seek: Using Childhood Games for Writing Prompts and Metaphors

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 31, 2017 by Sheila BenderAugust 31, 2017

In All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten, Robert Fulghum writes about hiding in a pile of leaves in his front yard and not being found by the game’s seeker. He likens this hiding-too-well as a kid … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2017 | Tagged writing exercises | 3 Replies

Writing as a Walker in the City (Or Anywhere)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 24, 2017 by Sheila BenderAugust 24, 2017

Writers write. That’s the definition. And sometimes, we-who-write feel cranky and rebellious toward our job. That can lead to not writing and then to becoming upset with ourselves for not writing, for not being writers. For the prompts I share … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2017 | Tagged journaling, overcoming writer's block | 1 Reply

A Way Into Discovering More Than You Knew You Had to Say

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 16, 2017 by Sheila BenderAugust 16, 2017

William Zinsser edited a book in 1988 called Spiritual Quests: The Art and Craft of Religious Writing. In his introduction to the book, Zinsser states “the act of writing is ultimately a sacrament for both writer and reader.” The act … Continue reading →

Posted in The Working Writer, WIR2017 | Tagged writing advice | 1 Reply

Reading Tarn Wilson’s The Slow Farm as a Writer Reads

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 10, 2017 by Sheila BenderAugust 11, 2017

For this video lesson, I have selected three passages from a memoir I love and admire, Tarn Wilson’s The Slow Farm.  I discuss them as a lesson on using details and sensory information to evoke the point-of-view of a memoir’s … Continue reading →

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Writing Poetry for a Clearer, More Centered Self

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 3, 2017 by Sheila BenderAugust 3, 2017

Writing poetry, no matter what genre you usually work in, is truly an experience of re-creating a self. In writing poems from experience and from meditative and reflective moments, we are the makers of something that helps us come to … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2017 | Tagged Trusting Images, Writing Craft Tools, Writing Poetry | 3 Replies

Continuing: A Short Study of Writing Memoir As an Accumulation of Short Pieces

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 27, 2017 by Sheila BenderJuly 27, 2017

It may seem hard to imagine how to write a life in short pieces rather than with a more traditional narrative arc, but it works. Here are excerpts from memoirs-made-of-pieces that I like very much: Excerpts from Abigail Thomas’ What Comes … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged memoir, personal essay, trust your writing, writing exercises | 2 Replies

A Three-Part Study Guide to Writing Short Memoir

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 19, 2017 by Sheila BenderJuly 19, 2017

Part One To get a feel for short memoir, you might enjoy reading from Writers’ Digest magazine’s column called “5-Minute Memoir.”  Here are links to a few of the columns: Writing from the Mat Hidden in Plain Sight The Beauty … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged memoir, trust your writing, writing exercises, writing memoir | 7 Replies

Admiring and Learning from Flash Writing by Jim Heynen

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 13, 2017 by Sheila BenderJuly 13, 2017

I have been an eager reader of flash stories by Jim Heynen for years. I’ve read The Man Who Kept Cigars Under His Cap, One-Room School House: Stories About the Boys, The Boy’s House: New and Selected Stories as well … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged personal essay, reading for writing, Writing Fiction, writing inspiration | 8 Replies

Reading as a Writer Reads — Taking a Lesson from the Writing in Just Fall, a Novel

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 6, 2017 by Sheila BenderJuly 6, 2017

I am an avid fan of Jane Friedman’s blog on writing and publishing. She is informative and up-to-date, presenting her expertise with scope and clarity. This week, I read her interview with screenwriter turned novelist, Nina R. Sadowsky.  I was … Continue reading →

Posted in Reading for Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged reading for writing, Writing Craft Tools, Writing Fiction | 4 Replies

Find the Motto Writer Within: Outcomes from the Writing Exercise

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 29, 2017 by Sheila BenderJune 30, 2017

A couple of weeks ago, I posted an exercise I call ?Find the Motto Writer Within.? Here are three writers’ outcomes from that exercise: The first is by Barbara Furniss, one of the writers I gathered to try out the … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2017 | 3 Replies

A Useful Review for Employing the Five Senses in Writing Scenes

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 22, 2017 by Sheila BenderJune 22, 2017

In writing, we only feel included as readers when our senses are involved. As we read with our senses involved, we learn more about ourselves and others by encountering the way the others record surroundings through their senses. As writers, … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged reading for writing, Trusting Images, Writing Craft Tools | 2 Replies

Finding the Motto Writer Within

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 15, 2017 by Sheila BenderJune 15, 2017

We are motto (and affirmation) happy in our culture. We circulate phrases from manufacturers and social service organizations from “Just do it” to “Just say no,” from “You deserve a break today” to “I brake for animals.” After I studied … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2017 | Tagged journaling, writing exercises | 2 Replies

“Grave Matters”: Mary Ann Payne’s Writing Exercise Result

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 8, 2017 by Mary Ann PayneJune 8, 2017

I am pleased to share long-time Writing It Real member Mary Ann Payne?s writing in response to the writing exercise I shared last week. Grave Matters by Mary Ann Payne It?s time to bury the piano. Chop it up in … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2017 | Tagged reading for writing, trust your writing, writing exercises | 11 Replies

Burying the Dutch Oven: A Writing Exercise for Discovery

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 1, 2017 by Sheila BenderJune 1, 2017

A writing colleague of mine once shared in an essay that when she angrily broke up with a beloved college boyfriend under duress because her father didn’t like him, she took the Dutch oven they used for cooking and buried … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2017 | Tagged journaling, Trusting Images, writing exercises | 1 Reply

Contest Winner Linda Robertson’s Poems

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 25, 2017 by Linda M. RobertsonMay 27, 2017

In our final week of posting contest entries from the fall/winter WIR writing contest, we have seven poems by Linda M. Robertson. Our contest judge Sharon Bryan wrote this about selecting these poems as winners: These poems speak in a voice … Continue reading →

Posted in Contest Winner, Literary Gallery, WIR2017 | Tagged contest winner, contest winning essay, Writing Poetry | 2 Replies

“Long Meg Speaks” by Emma Hunter, a Winning Essay in the Fall/Winter WIR Contest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 18, 2017 by Emma HunterMay 19, 2017

Our fall/winter writing contest guest judge Sharon Bryan chose Emma Hunter’s essay, “Long Meg Speaks,” as one of three winners. This week, we have the judge’s words about the essay as well as the author’s words about writing it, and, … Continue reading →

Posted in Literary Gallery, WIR2017 | Tagged contest winning essay, memoir, personal essay | 2 Replies

Writing It Real Fall/Winter Contest Winner Dorothy Ross’ “A Night at the Plaza”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 11, 2017 by Dorothy RossMay 18, 2017

[I will be posting the work of our recent three winners this week and then for the next two weeks. I hope you enjoy their comments about the writing of their work, our contest judge Sharon Byran’s comments, and, of … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2017 | Tagged contest winner, Writing Fiction | 2 Replies

What’s the Writer’s Job? Getting Going and Keeping on Going

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 4, 2017 by Sheila BenderMay 4, 2017

When I teach in person, people sometimes show up having purchased a copy of the recently updated edition of my first instructional book on writing: Writing in a Convertible with the Top Down, which I co-authored with Christi Killien Glover. Their interest prompts me … Continue reading →

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Poetry and Essays by Carol Smallwood: Observer, Librarian, Philosopher

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 27, 2017 by Carol SmallwoodApril 27, 2017

Librarian, poet and author Carol Smallwood came to my attention over the years when she emailed calls for essays to consider for anthologies she was editing. I was very pleased to learn about these anthologies and very pleased when she … Continue reading →

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Finding Starts in Personal Essay Writing: Part 3

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 30, 2017 by Sheila BenderApril 5, 2017

Mining the Three Freewrites: Whether you have done these freewrites ( see Part 1 and Part 2) ?in the course of one writing session or over several days, find out what the freewrites have to tell you about an essay … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged overcoming writer's block, personal essay, personal essays, trust your writing, writing advice, writing exercises, writing memoir | 3 Replies

Finding Starts in Personal Essay Writing: Part 2

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 23, 2017 by Sheila BenderMarch 23, 2017

[The following article appeared first in “The Heart and Craft and of Life Writing.”] Last week’s article included a freewrite to get you going toward writing on a topic that surprises you or allows you to get into a piece … Continue reading →

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Finding Starts in Personal Essay Writing: Part 1

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 16, 2017 by Sheila BenderMarch 23, 2017

[The following article appeared first in “The Heart and Craft and of Life Writing.”] It  might not be obvious that those of us who write personal essays can benefit greatly from not knowing what we have to write about.  That … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged overcoming writer's block, personal essays, writing advice | 1 Reply

The Way I See It

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 9, 2017 by Sheila BenderMarch 9, 2017

“The Way I See It” is the “Prologue” from Writing Personal Essays: Sharing and Shaping Your Life Experience, Published in print and digitally by Sheila Bender’s Writing It Real, March, 2017 [Note: I wrote a slightly different version of this … Continue reading →

Posted in Literary Gallery, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2017 | Tagged writing inspiration | 8 Replies

Acknowledging the Value of Your Writing, Part 4

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 2, 2017 by Sheila BenderMarch 3, 2017

Creating Self-Understanding Despite Fears of Revealing Your Own Shortcomings and True Experience Before we see what writers have said on the issue of fear about revealing oneself through writing, try this exercise: Select four or so pieces of your writing. … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2017 | Tagged writers' block, writing exercises, writing inspiration | 1 Reply

Acknowledging the Value of Your Writing Part 3 of 4

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 23, 2017 by Sheila BenderFebruary 23, 2017

Healing Through the Dark Emotions From journal writing to writing finished plays, memoir, poems and fiction, writers evoke and examine encounters with the dark emotions incited by misfortune, abuse, divorce, severe lack of confidence, fear of difficult and horrifying situations … Continue reading →

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