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Tag Archives: personal essay

The Great Latke Debate

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 29, 2022 by Marlene B. SamuelsDecember 29, 2022

Each year, exactly two weeks before Hanukkah and beginning the year our family immigrated to the U.S.A., Aunt Esther and Mom began their debates. We had moved to a suburb only a fifteen-minute drive from Esther, my mother’s sister. The … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged memoir, personal essay | 2 Replies

Hugs and Handshakes Can Be Wonderful Gifts

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 22, 2022 by David D. HorowitzDecember 22, 2022

Each holiday season I buy about six to eight gift cards, redeemable at a coffee shop or bookstore. I tape one gift card to a greeting card and mail it to a particular friend. The greeting cards are not holiday … Continue reading →

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Interview with Alison Townsend, Author of The Green Hour: A Natural History of Home

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 1, 2022 by Alison TownsendDecember 1, 2022

I am excited to introduce you again to author and poet Alison Townsend. I have been reading her beautiful lyric prose and poetry for years. I admire her sense of place and nature in what she writes. With the publication … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Interviews | Tagged memoir, personal essay, Publishing, women's voices, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

My First Thanksgiving When Mom Was My GUEST!

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 17, 2022 by Barbara SimmonsNovember 17, 2022

It was the year I moved to Cambridge, Massachusetts, leaving the boarding school where I’d been teaching in western Massachusetts. I was living in an apartment – actually, the 2nd floor of an old home that had been carved into … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged memoir, personal essay, women's voices | 6 Replies

Turkey Musings by Writing It Real Member Mona Anderson

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2022 by Mona AndersonNovember 10, 2022

In autumn turkeys grace the field in front of our house almost daily.  Lately, these visitors, often up to twenty-five, have come closer to the house, maybe to forage fallen apples from the tree in the front yard.  Or maybe … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged memoir, narration, personal essay | 4 Replies

Thanksgiving at Our House by Writing It Real Member Suzy Beal

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2022 by Suzy BealNovember 10, 2022

“One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, hey, you guys, Mom made seven pies this time, two cherry, two apple and three pumpkin!  She made cinnamon rolls and bread, too.”  We had to wait to eat until Uncle Mac, Aunt Mim and the cousins arrived. The whole house was warm and damp with odors wafting … Continue reading →

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Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2014 | Tagged memoir, narration, personal essay

It Wasn’t the Tryptophan by Writing It Real Member Patricia LaPointe

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2022 by Patricia LaPointeNovember 10, 2022

In mid-October 1969, my twin daughters were born a month early. After a few days in the hospital, we brought them home. What followed were days and nights filled with them drinking only an ounce or two of formula before … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged memoir, narration, personal essay | 2 Replies

Merle R. Saferstein Shares Her Knowledge of Legacy Writing and Why To Do It

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 3, 2022 by Merle R. SafersteinNovember 3, 2022

This month, I am pleased to introduce you to Florida author Merle R. Saferstein and her goal of helping others create legacy writing. She was director of educational outreach at the Holocaust Documentation and Education Center in Miami, FL and … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Reading for Writing, The Working Writer | Tagged journaling, memoir, personal essay | 1 Reply

Back-to-School Memory by Julia Blocksma

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 8, 2022 by Julia BlocksmaSeptember 8, 2022

Memoir:  First Grade by Julia Blocksma My enthusiasm knew no bounds: I was going to start first grade, in a school in America! After years in Lahore, Pakistan, where my father, a surgeon, had helped start a hospital just after World … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged personal essay | 5 Replies

Summer Memory Essays by Sandra Hurtes, Lynne G. Tenbusch and Carol J. Wechsler Blatter

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 4, 2022 by Sheila BenderAugust 5, 2022

Last week I begged for more essays and here are three generously shared by Writing It Real members for our post this week. Thank you three! Love Anyway by Sandra Hurtes It was a hot night in August 1969. My … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay | 2 Replies

What We Think of When We Think of May, Writings by Mona Anderson and David D. Horowitz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 19, 2022 by Sheila BenderMay 19, 2022

I was delighted to receive submissions over this past week from Mona Anderson and David D. Horowitz, and I very much hope for more Writing It Real member writing to post next week as we close out May. It has … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay, reading for writing, Writing Poetry | 1 Reply

Letters About Learned Experience From Writing Books

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 24, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 24, 2022

Whether we want to explain ourselves to readers and editors and thereby to ourselves or use what we lament about our publishing process to help others along the path in publishing, writing about it helps us as writers and builds … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay, women's voices, writing advice | 1 Reply

Letters About Writing Their Books by Desiree Woodland and Sheila Murphy

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 17, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 17, 2022

This week we post two letters by Writing It Real members about why they have or are writing their books, one by member Desiree Woodland to the people she hopes will read her book because of their contact with young … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay | 5 Replies

Two Epistolary Essays by Writing It Real Authors to Their Readers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 10, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

March epistolary essays have begun arriving. This week enjoy two Writing It Real members’ letters to their books’ audiences. Whether you are writing to explain yourself to your audience (and thus to yourself) when it comes to the book you have written, are writing or would write, or trying to give those who might read … Continue reading →

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Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay, writing exercises

Telephone: essays in two voices by Brenda Miller and Julie Marie Wade

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 4, 2021 by Brenda MillerNovember 5, 2021

Authors Brenda Miller and Julie Marie Wade have published a book of collaborative essays rich in imagery and music. Published by Cleveland State University Poetry Center, Telephone: essays in two voices is, according to award-winning poet and essayist, Hanif Abdurraqib, “a stellar example of what can be achieved in collaborative work where two voices figure … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2021 | Tagged memoir, on writing, personal essay

Author Tarn Wilson on Writing Her Memoir In Praise of Inadequate Gifts And a Generous Excerpt

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 2, 2021 by Tarn WilsonSeptember 3, 2021

I was very fortunate to receive my copy of Tarn Wilson’s new book, In Praise of Inadequate Gifts, a Memoir in Essays the day before I left for 11 days of wandering beaches along the Oregon Coast. On the road with my husband driving to the next beach town, I thought about the chapter of … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, Reading for Writing, WIR2021, Writing Makes a Difference | Tagged memoir, on writing, personal essay, women's voices

Writing Oral History and Beyond to Personal Essay

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 5, 2021 by Sheila BenderAugust 5, 2021

Years ago, before my father died of Parkinson’s disease, I interviewed him about his life as a young man and wrote what I now see as an oral history. Twenty years after his death, I have revisited that piece and tightened it. And I have revisited and tightened a revision of it I did that … Continue reading →

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Posted in Instructional Exercises, Literary Gallery, WIR2021 | Tagged personal essay

Excerpt and Words from Brenda Miller About Her New Book A Braided Heart: Essays on Writing and Form

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 1, 2021 by Brenda MillerJuly 6, 2021

I am so pleased to share news of Brenda Miller’s new book, A Braided Heart: Essays on Writing and Form, available now for pre-order ahead of the July 13 release date. She has answered questions I posed to her and shared an excerpt from the book. A contributor to Writing It Real over many years, … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2021 | Tagged memoir, on writing, personal essay, trust your writing, writing life

Our New Anthology(#3) of Members’ Writing! Holiday Times: The Ones We Like Remembering, Others We’d Rather Forget

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 31, 2020 by Sheila BenderJanuary 18, 2021

Here it is in PDF format:  Holiday Times: The Ones We Like Remembering, Others We’d Rather Forget, our third Writing It Real anthology for free download. It features writing by 17 Writing It Real members and altogether has 18 pieces that will make you laugh, cry, sigh and at times or shake your heads. View … Continue reading →

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Posted in WIR2021 | Tagged personal essay, women's voices, writing inspiration

“Mother,” an essay from Helen Goehring’s Collection Transformed by Grief

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 5, 2020 by EllenDecember 17, 2020

I am pleased to share an essay by Writing It Real member Helen Donnelly Goehring from her recently published collection, Transformed by Grief: A Personal History. Helen’s essay “Taking Notes: Assisted Living” was a winner in Writing It Real’s 2012 essay writing contest. Eight years later, she has a whole collection out! Many of us … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, Member Publications, WIR2020 | Tagged memoir, personal essay, women's voices

Tell It Slant: Author Brenda Miller on Writing Creative Nonfiction and a Generous Excerpt from the Book

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 5, 2019 by Brenda MillerDecember 13, 2019

Introduction to an Excerpt from Tell it Slant (Available from Powell’s and Amazon as well as your favorite bookseller). By Brenda Miller In 2001, when Suzanne Paola and I began talking about writing a textbook for creative nonfiction, no such book existed. We had been cobbling together our own instructional materials for years, and together … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Instructional Exercises, Literary Gallery, WIR2014, WIR2019 | Tagged memoir, personal essay, Trusting Images, Writing Craft Tools, writing exercises

We All Have Opinions: The Argument and Persuasion Essay

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 20, 2019 by Sheila BenderJune 19, 2019

Following the opinion pieces by Amy Hewes posted over the past two weeks, here is instruction on writing the argument and persuasion personal essay. It appeared in Writing It Real in 2014. I look forward to hearing from you in the comment section about your own experience writing in this form and about how this … Continue reading →

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Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2014 | Tagged personal essay, Writing Craft Tools

Keeping the Political Personal: “To Give or to Deny” by Journalist Amy Hewes

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 13, 2019 by Amy HewesJune 13, 2019

As I wrote last week, I feel lucky to have recently had journalist Amy Hewes on my KPTZ FM radio program, “In Conversation: Discussions on Writing and the Writing Life.”  Here’s the link to listen to our conversation.  In it, Amy explains how she goes about writing her opinion pieces, and her explanation will help those … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Reading for Writing, WIR2019 | Tagged Informational Writing, personal essay, reading for writing

The Opinion Piece: The Great Connector by Amy Hewes

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 6, 2019 by Amy HewesJune 12, 2019

I was lucky enough to have recently had journalist Amy Hewes on my KPTZ FM radio program, “In Conversation: Discussions on Writing and the Writing Life.”  Here’s the link to listen to our conversation.  In it, Amy explains how she goes about writing her opinion pieces, and her explanation will help those of us interested in … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Podcasts, Reading for Writing, WIR2019 | Tagged Informational Writing, personal essay, reading for writing

In My Opinion: Letter to My Husband’s Uncle

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 9, 2019 by Sheila BenderMay 10, 2019

5/9/19 Hello Harlan, We had a wonderful time recently celebrating my mother’s 92nd birthday with my daughter’s family and her in-laws, who have moved from the Midwest to a town just north of Seattle to be near their son and grandsons. They are originally from the southern part of India and came here years ago … Continue reading →

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Posted in Literary Gallery, WIR2019, Writing Makes a Difference | Tagged Epistolary writing, Informational Writing, personal essay

Tender is the Harvest, A Winning Essay by Laurie McConnachie

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 21, 2019 by Laurie McConnachieMarch 23, 2019

Our contest judge Holly Hughes  wrote these words in choosing Laurie McConnachie’s essay as one of our three winners: This is a deeply moving account of a daughter who lost her mother to a brain tumor when she was in her late 20s—and how she learns to move through grief and open her heart to … Continue reading →

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Posted in Contest Winner, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2019 | Tagged contest winning essay, memoir, personal essay, women's voices

Beginning Again with Tree Spirits by Katlaina Rayne

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 14, 2019 by Katlaina RayneMarch 14, 2019

I am pleased to share another essay by a Writing It Real member. “Beginning Again with Tree Spirits” illustrates the diverse topics our members write about. Reading Katlaina’s essay will definitely change your relationship to the trees and forests in your towns and counties as well as inspire courage to write about topics you fear … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2019 | Tagged memoir, personal essay, women's voices

“In Honor of Mr. Alfred Scott,” by Jean Peelen

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 28, 2019 by Jean PeelenFebruary 28, 2019

As Black History Month ends and we have learned more about black religious leaders, scientists, politicians, professors, film directors, sports figures, journalists, poets and authors, among many other professions, those of other ethnicities have had an opportunity to reflect on how learning of the strife of an oppressed group changed the trajectory of their own … Continue reading →

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Tornado Watch by Carol Smallwood

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 21, 2019 by Carol SmallwoodFebruary 22, 2019

Writing It Real contributor Carol Smallwood is a poet with several volumes to her name, a retired career librarian who has produced books of value to those who direct and run libraries and educational programs, and she is the editor of writing books for new and experienced writers and teachers of writing. In 2018 she … Continue reading →

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A Writing Buffet-Help Yourself!

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 17, 2019 by Sheila BenderJanuary 17, 2019

It’s time for some post-New Year’s inspiration so I am reposting a slightly updated article that is full of quotes to inspire and approaches to creating new material from that inspiration. Thirteen years ago, my grandson Toby turned three.  All of his grandparents attended his party in Seattle.  The day after, a work team was … Continue reading →

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The Past is Always in the Present, A New Year’s Greeting

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 27, 2018 by Sheila BenderDecember 31, 2018

About the size of my palm, the orange glass turtle with stout yellow feet has been with me since 1972. We started out in Matawan, New Jersey, where my 7th-grade class presented him to me as a goodbye gift–I was moving to the West Coast with my husband, a transferring medical student. The turtle was … Continue reading →

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Writing Our Personal Stories for Others: Susan Smith’s “My Heart Attack Saved My Life”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 6, 2018 by Susan SmithDecember 6, 2018

I haven’t posted in the Writing It Real category of “Writing Makes a Difference” in a while now as I’ve concentrated on writing exercises to keep you inspired. This week, though, I am returning to that category to share Susan Smith’s account of having a heart attack. She wrote this piece because little is discussed … Continue reading →

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Moving an Essay Toward Completion — Pam Robinson’s “Table of Plenty”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 6, 2018 by Pam RobinsonSeptember 6, 2018

Pam Robinson’s entry into the fall 2011 Writing It Real contest is an essay about her memories of her mother’s cooking and life on a farm. As I spend time harvesting onions, potatoes, tomatoes, cucumbers, various beans, Asian pears and soon apples and second crop radishes from my own garden, I resonate with the harvest … Continue reading →

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An Approach to Writing Flash Nonfiction

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 7, 2018 by Sheila BenderJune 7, 2018

Flash prose, sometimes called flash literature, is creative writing between 500 and 1500 words. This term includes further subgenres prose poetry, short essays and vignettes. Like the longer essay, or something now called short memoir, the flash personal essay evokes experience and arrives at discovery through the writer’s telling. Because it is short, it maintains a firm focus … Continue reading →

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More on How to Write the How-to Essay (and Why)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 10, 2018 by Sheila BenderMay 10, 2018

I’ve been teaching the how-to essay again and reading models. I love how the how-to format offers the personal essayist a structure that inspires poignancy, honesty, and humor. Here is an excerpt from my book Writing and Sharing Personal Essays. And for after you’ve read about this style essay and the sample essay in the … Continue reading →

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“Disturbing the Calm” by Judith Kvinsland, 1st Place

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 5, 2018 by Judy KvinslandApril 5, 2018

Our contest judge, Kelli Agodon, wrote this of her first choice piece in the fall/winter 2018 writing contest: Judith Barker Kvinsland’s essay, “Disturbing the Calm,” explores how sometimes, despite the ease of our lives, we need to take a risk. It is a thoughtful exploration of family, responsibility, and location, where the author learns something … Continue reading →

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The Flash Sequence: A Form for Saying the Unsayable

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 1, 2018 by Sheila BenderFebruary 2, 2018

The flash sequence uses poetic leaps of association for examining the impact of difficult-to-articulate circumstances. Sometimes it is accomplished in journal entries, other times with meditations about place, or people or objects. Sometimes it is composed of collections of scenes. Whatever the container of the sequence, the form is undoubtedly a psychological exploration, often of … Continue reading →

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A Writing Exercise to Help You Arrive at Deep Material

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 4, 2018 by Sheila BenderJanuary 4, 2018

Many say that the hardest part of writing is moving from daily activities to being able to create work that transcends the daily. There are ways, though, to launch new writing that unexpectedly gets you to your deepest material while allowing you to make the shift easily. What follows is an exercise that is meant … Continue reading →

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Write Your Own Manifesto

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 30, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 30, 2017

For several years now, I have been interviewing writers, editors, writing program directors and publishers for ?In Conversation: Discussions on Writing and the Writing Life,? my regular program on KPTZ FM radio. At Writing It Real, we archive the programs, after they have aired, to maintain permanent links to all of the interviews. Over the … Continue reading →

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A Must Read for Personal Essayists: “Learning to Drive” by Katha Pollitt

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 16, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 16, 2017

This is a revised and updated article based on one from 2002 when I first read “Learning to Drive: A Year of Unexpected Lessons” by Katha Pollitt, published in The New Yorker magazine. I hope you’ll read the essay and go on to read my discussion of it, which includes an excerpt of review of the film (now … Continue reading →

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Cider Mills and Burning Leaves: Writing Fall

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 9, 2017 by Sheila BenderNovember 9, 2017

For us in northern states, fall brings shorter daylight, leaves to rake and cider mills to visit where we sip fresh apple cider and eat sweet doughnuts. We fill a nip in the air. In warm climates, fall begins the season of visitors with full hotels, gift shops and restaurants. Around the country Thanksgiving dinners … Continue reading →

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What is Epistolary Writing? Why Write in Epistolary Form?

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 12, 2017 by Sheila BenderOctober 12, 2017

The word epistolary comes from the Greek epistol?, which means “letter.” Writers use the letter form in writing personal essays, poems, creative nonfiction and fiction because the form provides a ready-made container to hold an exploration of events and experiences. Writing in the letter form quickly builds intimacy with readers because a letter is addressed to someone … Continue reading →

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One More Waltz, An Essay by Nancy Lamb

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 17, 2017 by Nancy LambSeptember 17, 2017

There are times in a person’s life when everything is tinted gray and the future looks too dark to step into. Then in one single shift of the universe, something happens—we turn left, instead of right; we answer the phone, smile at a stranger, or meet an old lover. Something moves. And the light reappears. … Continue reading →

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Continuing: A Short Study of Writing Memoir As an Accumulation of Short Pieces

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 27, 2017 by Sheila BenderJuly 27, 2017

It may seem hard to imagine how to write a life in short pieces rather than with a more traditional narrative arc, but it works. Here are excerpts from memoirs-made-of-pieces that I like very much: Excerpts from Abigail Thomas’ What Comes Next and How to Like It. Excerpt from Kim Stafford’s 100 Tricks Any Boy Can Do: … Continue reading →

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Admiring and Learning from Flash Writing by Jim Heynen

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 13, 2017 by Sheila BenderJuly 13, 2017

I have been an eager reader of flash stories by Jim Heynen for years. I’ve read The Man Who Kept Cigars Under His Cap, One-Room School House: Stories About the Boys, The Boy’s House: New and Selected Stories as well as his newest collection Ordinary Sins: Stories. You can visit this web page to view … Continue reading →

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“Long Meg Speaks” by Emma Hunter, a Winning Essay in the Fall/Winter WIR Contest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 18, 2017 by Emma HunterMay 19, 2017

Our fall/winter writing contest guest judge Sharon Bryan chose Emma Hunter’s essay, “Long Meg Speaks,” as one of three winners. This week, we have the judge’s words about the essay as well as the author’s words about writing it, and, of course, the essay. Emma wrote this in answer to my request for words about … Continue reading →

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Finding Starts in Personal Essay Writing: Part 3

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 30, 2017 by Sheila BenderApril 5, 2017

Mining the Three Freewrites: Whether you have done these freewrites ( see Part 1 and Part 2) ?in the course of one writing session or over several days, find out what the freewrites have to tell you about an essay you might write by combing through them and jotting down images and phrases that interest … Continue reading →

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Finding Starts in Personal Essay Writing: Part 2

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 23, 2017 by Sheila BenderMarch 23, 2017

[The following article appeared first in “The Heart and Craft and of Life Writing.”] Last week’s article included a freewrite to get you going toward writing on a topic that surprises you or allows you to get into a piece of writing in a way that is new to you. If you haven’t done freewrite … Continue reading →

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Writing Our Own Stories Helps Others Write Theirs: Essay by and Interview with Joan Leof

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 20, 2016 by Joan LeofOctober 20, 2016

Joan Leof’s collection of essays Matryoshka: Uncovering Your Many Selves Through Writing Personal Essays and Questions for Reflection is intended to share her personal experience essays in a way that encourages others to write from their experiences. After reading her … Continue reading →

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20 Memoir and Personal Essay Writing Prompts

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 18, 2016 by Sheila BenderAugust 18, 2016

Exploring your life on the page is daunting whether you are writing short memoir (the personal essay) or a book-length manuscript. Where does one start? How does one choose the highlights for the story’s exploration? How does one find surprises? Here are 20 ideas to find a point of entry and to organize your memoir … Continue reading →

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Rants and Raves — A Great Writing Strategy from Karen Lorene

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 28, 2016 by Karen LoreneJuly 28, 2016

“If I’d only known what was in this book forty years ago, how much more money would I have made and how fewer problems would I have encountered?” Karen wonders. Isn’t that true for all of us in our lives—if we knew what we know now we could have done better at what mattered to … Continue reading →

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A Revision Success Story: Developing “The Longest Walk” by Arla Shephard Bull

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 20, 2016 by Arla Shephard BullApril 18, 2021

Writing It Real member Arla Shephard Bull worked back and forth with me on developing an essay that was important to her to write. She had decided to use the third person as a way of distancing herself enough to approach the topic of a painful family trip. Despite a question she had about that … Continue reading →

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Fall/Winter Writing Contest: Emma Hunter’s “God’s Breath and Bolognese”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 10, 2016 by Emma HunterMay 19, 2017

Contest judge Stan Rubin, a master teacher, poet and friend of writing, wrote that Emma Hunter’s essay: Gracefully lives up to its rather daunting title, with wit and philosophical sweep. Concisely renders a dual vision — adult and child, the mundane and the cosmic — with natural dialogue and internal reflection, in a realistic scene. The relationships are delicately and … Continue reading →

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Before and After: Shaping a Personal Essay Using the 3-Step Response Method

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 6, 2015 by Marjorie FordMay 13, 2015

The back and forth you’ll read this week on the development of an essay-in-progress demonstrates the power of my three-step response method for helping writers revise. Years ago, Marjorie Ford sent me an essay-in-progress that she was having trouble developing to her satisfaction for meeting an upcoming anthology submission deadline. After I received her first draft, we immersed ourselves in the three-step response, back and … Continue reading →

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Second Place Winning Essay — Winter 2014 Contest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 11, 2015 by Maureen MistryMarch 11, 2015

We are pleased to post the second place winning essay in this past winter’s Writing It Real essay contest. Our guidelines said the number 12 was to be somewhere in the essay in honor of Writing It Real’s 12th Anniversary. Our guest judge, Midge Raymond, co-founder of Oregon’s Ashland Creek Press, chose Maureen Mistry’s “The … Continue reading →

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On Making Audio Memoirs

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 25, 2015 by Dorothy RossFebruary 28, 2015

Not long ago, Writing It Real member Dorothy Ross wrote to me about her newest project — recording the narratives she’s written about her life for her family to have in the form of audio files. I listened to a few of them and was so pleased to hear her physical voice. I immediately wanted … Continue reading →

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Excerpt from Susan Bono’s Collection What Have We Here

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 14, 2015 by Susan BonoJanuary 14, 2015

The following essay by Susan Bono is the title essay from her new collection What Have We Here: Essays about Keeping House and Finding Home. We reprint it this week with her permission. To learn more about Susan’s writing and the place of the personal essay in her writing life, please see last week’s interview. What Have We … Continue reading →

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What Have We Here: A Conversation with Susan Bono About Her New Collection of Essays

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 7, 2015 by Susan BonoJanuary 21, 2015

For writer and small press publisher (Tiny Lights) Susan Bono, the last thirty years have mostly been about trying to stay ahead of a husband, growing kids, aging parents, and an eccentric old house, in spite of detours, deadlines, unexpected changes, and inevitable losses. But through it all, she’s been taking notes. In her collection of … Continue reading →

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Letter to My Son

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 31, 2014 by Sheila BenderDecember 31, 2014

Writing It Real members and students know my love of the epistolary (letter) form in literature and the many examples of it I offer as writing models. During the holiday season, a time of letters from those near and far, I am especially inspired to write to my son, Seth. At the letter’s end, I … Continue reading →

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Grandma’s Fridge

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 5, 2014 by Jennifer WagleyNovember 6, 2014

Years ago, Jennifer Wagley entered a vivid, funny account of her perceptions of her grandmother’s attitudes toward food — buying, keeping, and serving it. It turns out she did this in 12 paragraphs, and as you know, we are celebrating our 12 year Writing It Real anniversary asking for essays that use the number 12. Check our contest guidelines … Continue reading →

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The Honor of Writing a Foreword to an Anthology

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 15, 2014 by Sheila BenderOctober 15, 2014

The following is the 2013 foreword I was honored to write for the anthology Times They Were A’Changing: Women Remember the 60s and 70s, edited by Linda Joy Myers, Amber Lea Starfire and Kate Farrell. Paying tribute to the vibrant decades during which I was a college student and next a mom to two young children was certainly a … Continue reading →

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Last Words, Glenn Fleishman’s Essay on Loss

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 1, 2014 by Glenn FleishmanOctober 1, 2014

Glenn Fleishman’s expertly executed and moving personal essay about the his mother’s death and the last time he saw her will resonate with any of us who are striving to write the details of loss and our lives at the time of our loss. Notice the mix of medical information and terminology, with personal medical … Continue reading →

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How a Personal Essay Becomes Fully Manifest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 24, 2014 by Betty ShaferSeptember 25, 2014

Betty Shafer asked me to read an essay about losing her adult son. It had been a year since she began the essay following an emotional author reading I gave at the Colorado Mountain Writer’s Conference she attended in June 2001. Wishing to include memories about her son John in a book she was making … Continue reading →

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On Writing Personal Essays: Rest Assured, It’s More Than “Only” the Personal

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 3, 2014 by Sheila BenderSeptember 3, 2014

As personal essayists, we sometimes worry whether people will be interested in what we have to say since our material is “just” personal experience. That worry exists alongside its cousins “Who am I to write about this or to tell my family’s secrets?” and “What if my experience rubs people the wrong way and is judged harshly by others, especially people … Continue reading →

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My Marital Status

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 17, 2014 by James KullanderJuly 17, 2014

After reading that I’d mentioned an interview he did with Marion Woodman in a Writing It Real article, James Kullander contacted me. After reading the whole article, he offered permission to share another essay originally published in the December 2007 issue of The Sun magazine. “My Marital Status” takes a moving look at love and commitment, at what … Continue reading →

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Interview with Memoirist Tarn Wilson, Part III: Writing About Others and The Journey to Publication

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 25, 2014 by Andrea ClausenJune 25, 2014

Last week we posted Part II of my interview with Tarn Wilson about her memoir The Slow Farm. We talked about different ways of bringing back memories and how to write from a child’s viewpoint as an adult. This week, she shares the way she approaches writing about family members consciously and compassionately way, provides … Continue reading →

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The Strangest of Theatres: A Poet Writes Across Borders

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 5, 2014 by Susan RichMarch 18, 2014

Three accomplished writers have as editors acquired a collection of essays in The Strangest of Theatres: Poets Writing Across Borders in which poets explore the way their journeys to foreign lands helped them add to literature’s great conversation. Susan Rich, one editor of the three, whose newest poetry collection Cloud Pharmacy is just out from … Continue reading →

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Michael Shurgot’s 2nd Place Winning Essay “The First Time I Should Have Died”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 12, 2014 by Michael W. ShurgotFebruary 12, 2014

Our guest judge Molly Tinsley’s notes about choosing Michael Shurgot’s essay for our second-place winner are these: “Great propulsion. The building of tension, the sense of time running out, the hints of questions left unanswered — all are the strategies of an accomplished story-teller. The detachment of the retrospective voice hooked me in further, the … Continue reading →

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First Place Winning Essay – “Why I Write” by Mary Kurtz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 5, 2014 by Mary KurtzFebruary 6, 2014

Our fall/winter writing contest judge, Molly Tinsley, chose “Why I Write,” a personal essay by Mary Kurtz, as our first-place winner. Molly said in her notes about this essay: “Emotional control of the narrative makes Mary’s experience all the more riveting and poignant. I was swept up by the vivid flow of habitual action interrupted … Continue reading →

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What I Was Thinking

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 22, 2014 by Sheila BenderJanuary 22, 2014

This article first ran January 24, 2008, after a visit from my grandsons. Their visit over this past Martin Luther King three-day weekend had me thinking again about the way watching children’s reactions to our adult judgments and commands can help us become kinder to our writing and our writing selves, so we can better … Continue reading →

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People Who Write — Sandra Hurtes’ Story of Blog to Book

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 15, 2014 by Sandra HurtesSeptember 27, 2022

Sandra Hurtes created a blog, felt she had a book there, and engaged in the process of selecting and shaping the entries and adding to the material to create a book-length account of herself as writer.  The result is the very recently published The Ambivalent Memoirist: Obesessions, Digressions, Epiphanies, which has already garnered praise and … Continue reading →

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On Meeting the Lost Boys of Sudan, Personal Writing at the Intersection of History

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 8, 2014 by Betty ShaferJanuary 10, 2014

Writing It Real member Betty Shafer met five of the Lost Boys of the Sudan during a time that she was mourning personal losses and considering a major life change. Entwining their story of tragedy and survival during an historic upheaval with reflections on events in her own life, Betty arrives at clarity, strength, and … Continue reading →

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New Year’s Thoughts and Advice From My Correspondence With My iPad Mini

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 31, 2013 by Sheila BenderFebruary 18, 2014

December 31, 2013 Dear Mini, Today marks our six-month anniversary of being together!  Six months! And you, my love, remain ever fresh and surprising, ever so original! We haven’t parted for even a day since that July afternoon when I gave in to the gleam in your eye and brought you home. I want to … Continue reading →

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Create the Mother Lode: Exercises for Short Writing That Leads to More Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 18, 2013 by Sheila BenderDecember 18, 2013

[This excerpt appear in slightly different form in the anthology Women Writing On Family: Tips on Writing, Teaching and Publishing, edited by Carol Smallwood and Suzann Holland.] Even when life seems too busy to “really” write, you can work on gathering and storing images, details, and reflections about family life, personal experiences and memories. The brief … Continue reading →

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A Coming-of-Age Vignette, Sage Advice, and the Writing Exercise They Inspired

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 20, 2013 by Rhonda Wiley-JonesNovember 20, 2013

When you read the following excerpts from Rhonda Wiley-Jones’ memoir, At Home in the World: Travel Stories of Growing Up and Growing Away, you’ll likely remember incidents from your own youth when you learned important things about yourself, perceptions that allowed you to see yourself in new ways. I’ve included a writing exercise to use … Continue reading →

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Foreword to Times They Were A-Changing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 30, 2013 by Sheila BenderOctober 31, 2013

It was an honor to be asked to write the foreword to the newly released anthology Times They Were A-Changing, edited by Linda Joy Myers, Amber Lea Starfire, and Kate Farrell, whose selection of forty-eight powerful stories and poems by women about life changing experiences in the ’60s and ’70s vividly re-creates those two decades … Continue reading →

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On Writing the Eulogy

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 2, 2013 by David ReichOctober 2, 2013

As writers, we are frequently the ones asked to write eulogies for friends and family members. Even if we are not asked, we may feel moved to write eulogies to honor those we loved and then to share our writing with a literary audience. Reading author David Reich’s eulogy for his father and considering the … Continue reading →

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A Keynote Address Using Personal Experience

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 25, 2013 by Sheila BenderOctober 8, 2013

As the writers among our circles of family, friends, colleagues and associates, we are often approached to write addresses and eulogies, toasts and speeches. On September 19, 2013, I presented the keynote address at Providence Hospice of Seattle’s annual Pediatric Luncheon. It is a fundraiser for the organization’s work with grieving and terminally ill children and … Continue reading →

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“March 9th, Day Zero” — Excerpt from Stumbling Through the Dark

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 15, 2013 by Thelma ZirkelbachMay 15, 2013

Thelma Zirkelbach describes her memoir as “a story of love and loss and unexpected courage.” In the following excerpt from Chapter 11 of Stumbling Through the Dark, Mazo Publishers, 2013 (posted here with permission of the author), Thelma’s husband Ralph is undergoing a red cell transplant. How does one commemorate what is supposed to be … Continue reading →

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Parking Garage – A Personal Essay on Widowhood

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 8, 2013 by Thelma ZirkelbachMay 8, 2013

Along with editors Barbara B. Rollins, Becky Haigler, and Robyn Conley, Thelma Zirkelbach edited the anthology On Our Own: Widowhood for Smarties. We posted an interview with Thelma last week about the process of finding contributors and publishing the anthology. This week, we are pleased to post an essay by Thelma from the 2012 book. … Continue reading →

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Writing the Situations Life Throws Your Way – An Interview with Thelma Zirkelbach

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 1, 2013 by Sheila BenderMay 2, 2013

Former romance writer Thelma Zirkelback has two books out now (and a blog) on the subject of widowhood, one an anthology she co-edited of writings by women who have coped with their new life situation (On Our Own: Widowhood for Smarties) and the other a memoir about her interfaith marriage and and the loss of … Continue reading →

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On Writing Memoir: Obsessions Digressions and Epiphanies

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 27, 2013 by Sandra HurtesMarch 27, 2013

Sandra Hurtes is the author of the essay collection, On My Way To Someplace Else and the chapbook RESCUE. Her essays and articles have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post and Poets & Writers, among other publications. You can find links to her work and a link to her new blog, Chasing the Present Moment. … Continue reading →

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Our Third Place Winning Essay – Salvation by Pam Robinson

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 1, 2013 by Pam RobinsonMarch 1, 2013

Pam Robinson is our third place winner in the Writing It Real winter, 2012 writing contest. Our guest judge, Shanti Bannwart, sent these words along about Pamela’s essay: The piece begins with a quote that provides almost a summary of the story that follows. And the almost is the trigger here, whetting the appetite of … Continue reading →

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I Grew Up in That Place – First Place Winning Essay, Winter 2012 Contest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 13, 2013 by Kate AllenFebruary 13, 2013

The contest results are in and we are proud to publish the first-place winning essay in our winter, 2012 contest. Guest judge Shanti Bannwart sent these words about Kate Allen’s “I Grew Up in That Place”:  The essay is a touching example of the mythological Hero’s Journey – or better the Heroine’s Journey: the challenge of encountering … Continue reading →

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Talking Recklessly

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 16, 2013 by KimStaffordJanuary 16, 2013

 “Talking Recklessly” is excerpted by permission of the author, Kim Stafford, from his memoir 100 Tricks Any Boy Can Do: How My Brother Disappeared published 2012 by Trinity University Press, San Antonio, TX. When we were young, our father had a habit of abruptly increasing the voltage by announcing, “Let’s talk recklessly!” This meant any … Continue reading →

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The Holiness of the Heart’s Affections

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 19, 2012 by Sheila BenderMarch 6, 2013

The following article about trusting our need to write was first published in Writing It Real on December 25, 2003.  As this year draws to a close, it seems timely again to remember that as artists, we must overcome  whatever lack of courage  we harbor and meet the world’s sadness as well as its joy with … Continue reading →

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Writing Between the Lines: A Personal Essay Writing Idea

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 5, 2012 by Sheila BenderOctober 3, 2013

I receive news headlines online from the Washington Post. It is unusual for one of their tech headlines to capture my interest, let alone to inspire a creative writing idea. But yesterday, a headline about a tech book review caught my eye because of the book’s title: The Human Face of Big Data: How information … Continue reading →

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A Holiday Letter

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 20, 2012 by Sheila BenderDecember 17, 2012

After a request from a Writing It Real member to write more on the topic of composing holiday letters, I decided first to write my holiday letter and see what lessons came. I started with the scene of a recent night’s wakefulness and let that scene lead me to associations concerning some of the events … Continue reading →

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In Praise of Inadequate Gifts

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 7, 2012 by Tarn WilsonJune 11, 2014

Former Writing It Real intern, Tarn Wilson, shares an exquisite, humble essay about the times we confront loss in the lives of those we don’t know well and the times others address our own losses. This essay first appeared in Harvard Divinity Bulletin, Vol. 40, Nos. 3 and 4 (Summer/Autumn 2012): 13-16. Copyright 2012 The President … Continue reading →

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Taking Notes: Assisted Living — Evolution of Helen Goehring’s Second Place Winning Essay

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 10, 2012 by Helen GoehringDecember 18, 2012

Our judge Betsy Howell wrote about her selection of Helen Goehring’s essay: “We learn from people when we stop and really see them, when we know something of their lives, past and present, and all that has made them who they are. The author in this essay sees many reasons for hopefulness, even as the hard … Continue reading →

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Judging the Personal Essay

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 5, 2012 by Sheila BenderNovember 24, 2013

In 2007, I wrote about the way I judge essays in a contest. As Writing It Real members enter their work for our 2013 Fall contest, I am reposting my thoughts on the judging process. When I judge, I separate judging into three steps and view the roles I take on, first of friend, then of … Continue reading →

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Bagging Africa’s Big Five

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 23, 2012 by Dorothy RossMay 30, 2012

Dorothy Ross’s winning personal essay takes her readers to Africa and a photo safari involving more action than the writer had bargained for. The details the author chooses put us right into the situation with directness and good humor, attributes of good writing. Bagging Africa’s Big Five by Dorothy Ross Thirty-six hours after leaving San … Continue reading →

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Monday Morning at the Fracture Clinic

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 15, 2012 by Karin GoldbergMay 17, 2012

I admire Karin Goldberg’s recent Writing It Real contest winning description of an accident she suffered and her description of waiting for help. Though in shock, she did what she could to remain in control. In the days after the accident, she comes to an insight of value to all of us writers. Monday Morning … Continue reading →

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American Union

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 9, 2012 by Cecile LusbyMay 8, 2012

I admire Cecile Lusby’s first-place winning essay in our recent Writing It Real contest for its use of dialog to involve the reader in the author’s life-changing childhood experience and for the way the essay spans time, letting us know the impacts of our interactions with others affect us for a lifetime, and working out … Continue reading →

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Go Ahead: Write About Your Parents, Again

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 2, 2012 by Tarn WilsonJune 11, 2014

Tarn Wilson writes, “Then, in my newest piece of writing, my mother returned like a zombie, dominating in all her horror and glory. She was stubborn and unyielding and I had no powers against her. After I’d wallowed around in the shame of my retrogression, I decided to re-examine my assumptions.” It is with delight that … Continue reading →

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Of Eucalyptus And Elm Trees And Fathers, Too

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 11, 2012 by Hildegard HingleJanuary 11, 2012

The guest judge for Writing It Real’s summer/fall 2011 writing contest was Susan Bono, who chose “Eucalyptus And Elm Trees And Fathers, Too” as our third place winner. Susan wrote about the work that it “flowed so naturally. The writer uses the eucalyptus tree that used to be part of her view to trigger a … Continue reading →

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Making Peace

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 4, 2012 by Drew WilsonJanuary 11, 2012

Susan Bono, our guest judge for the Summer/Fall Writing It Real contest, chose the following essay as our second place winner. She writes of the essay: “I felt like the writer touched all the bases as she ran home. I was very satisfied with its shape and scope. This writer takes the simple act of … Continue reading →

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I Know How the Wild Goose Feels

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 21, 2011 by Sher LaughlinJanuary 4, 2012

Our Summer/Fall WIR guest contest judge Susan Bono awarded first place to Sher Laughlin’s essay. Susan enjoyed the essay’s “many layers of emotion and craft.” She wrote that the essay “employed great use of scene, dialog, imagery/symbolism and moved effortlessly between the tension of the unfolding incident and the narrator’s ever-expanding drama, realizations about beginnings … Continue reading →

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