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Category Archives: WIR2016

Acknowledging the Value of Your Writing: Exercises for Week One and Two of Four

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 9, 2017 by Sheila BenderFebruary 11, 2017

I have been teaching a class called “Writing is a Friend with Extraordinary Benefits” for a couple of years now through Women on Writing. I have been extremely engaged in what my students write and thrilled by the evidence that … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged trust your writing, writing advice, writing inspiration | 1 Reply

Writing About Painful Topics

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 2, 2017 by Sheila BenderFebruary 2, 2017

My friend, the essayist Brenda Miller, wrote the introduction to my memoir A New Theology: Turning to Poetry in a Time of Grief. “I understood then,” she wrote, “that grief can be a channel in which you swim alone, where … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2016 | Tagged overcoming writer's block, writing advice, writing exercises | 6 Replies

Help Writing Scenes That Engage the Reader (and the Writer)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 26, 2017 by Sheila BenderFebruary 6, 2017

In 2005, I posted an article with excerpts from Riding in Cars with Boys by Beverly Donofrio’s and A Soldier’s Daughter Never Cries by Kaylie Jones along with exercises based on their writing. I am reposting the following short excerpts … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2016 | Tagged reading for writing, writing exercises, Writing Scenes | 1 Reply

A Writer’s Role Models: Canadian Author Miriam Towes and Her 15-Year-Old Character Elfrieda

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 19, 2017 by Sheila BenderJanuary 19, 2017

This week, I have made a video for Writing It Real’s Weekly Article. In it, I share a passage from Canadian author Miriam Toews’ novel All My Puny Sorrows in which a talented 15-year-old piano player exercises her genius against … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016, Writing Makes a Difference | Tagged reading for writing, women's voices, Writing Craft Tools, Writing Scenes | 9 Replies

Toward Beginning A Year of Writing Poetry (Or Improving Your Prose Through Poetry)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 5, 2017 by Sheila BenderJanuary 5, 2017

For January: Dreams and Repetitions In this month of the inauguration of a new president of our country, it seems particularly appropriate and important to study the orators of our great nation who called out for freedoms we enjoy. Reading … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged Writing Craft Tools, writing exercises, writing inspiration, Writing Poetry | 6 Replies

Understanding Your Writing and Your Need to Write

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 29, 2016 by Sheila BenderDecember 29, 2016

How does one muster the courage to keep writing even when no one has asked for her to write? How does a writer handle restlessness and disappointment? The author Ralph Keyes writes in The Courage to Write: How Writers Transcend … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged writing advice, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

My Sure Fire Methods of Self-Sabotage (and What I’ve Done to Turn Them Around)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 22, 2016 by Sheila BenderDecember 22, 2016

We’ll soon be thinking about the New Year’s Resolutions we want to make for 2017. For those who write, at least one of those resolutions will likely be about finding more time to write. I know that’s what I’d like … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged overcoming writer's block, writing advice, writing life | 2 Replies

What It Takes – An Exercise to Keep You Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 15, 2016 by Sheila BenderDecember 15, 2016

This time of year, we are often flooded with memories of our childhoods, especially of winter holiday times. Some of the memories may be of difficulties and some may be of times filled with excitement and joy. Happy or sad, … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2016 | Leave a reply

Why I Want to Write

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 8, 2016 by Katherine ClarkeDecember 9, 2016

[Editor’s note: Sometimes I teach a class for Women on Writing that I call “Writing is a Friend with Extraordinary Benefits.” The following essay by Katherine Clarke is reprinted with permission of the author, is an example of what happens … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2016 | Tagged trust your writing, women's voices, writing inspiration | 7 Replies

‘Tis the Season for Lists

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 1, 2016 by Sheila BenderDecember 1, 2016

[Note: I originally posted the following article in December, 2007. It’s holiday preparation time again and lists keep us sane. They can also keep us writing! Try the exercise I am suggesting based on writing lists poems. Try it more … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2016 | Tagged journaling, writing exercises, Writing Poetry | Leave a reply

A Passion for Writing Might Save Us in These Times

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 22, 2016 by Sheila BenderNovember 27, 2016

What are we writers to do in a nation where so many young and old seem to have gone mad, publically shouting and bullying, using crude names for those of the female sex and for people of non-Christian religions and … Continue reading →

Posted in Literary Gallery, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged trust your writing, writing inspiration | 6 Replies

Deepen Your Writing: 20 Prompts Using Point of View

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 3, 2016 by Sheila BenderNovember 3, 2016

Many of us writing memoir are used to writing from the first person (I) point of view. Others of us write fiction in the first person, often as an autobiographically-based main character. Some of us write in third person (he … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | 1 Reply

Gathered by Author Priscilla Long: Tools for a Life in Art

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 27, 2016 by Priscilla LongOctober 27, 2016

Through books, articles and often in-person seminars, Seattle author and poet, Priscilla Long, shares her experience with those of us who write. Her recent book, Minding the Muse: A Handbook for Painters, Composers, Writers and Other Creators, is, at just … Continue reading →

Posted in WIR2016 | 1 Reply

A Short Study in Prose Poetry – Questions and Answers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 29, 2016 by Sheila BenderOctober 2, 2016

What is a prose poem? “It is a piece of writing in prose having obvious poetic qualities, including intensity, compactness, prominent rhythms, and imagery.” — Chrome Browser Link. Why write it? “Baudelaire used prose poems to rebel against the straitjacket … Continue reading →

Posted in WIR2016 | Tagged writing exercises, Writing Poetry | 1 Reply

We Write to Feel and to Make Others Feel What is Genuine

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 22, 2016 by Sheila BenderOctober 2, 2016

When someone asks (or you ask yourself) why you write, I bet that many of the motivations you think to cite are on this list: • to understand your experience, • because you have a story in your heart, • because you can’t … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged on writing, reading for writing, writing inspiration | 4 Replies

20 Prompts for Article Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 15, 2016 by Sheila BenderOctober 2, 2016

Want to write an article for a local publication, an online site or a niche publication in a field of interest to you? Here are some prompts to get you going: Write a tourist type tour of your town for … Continue reading →

Posted in The Working Writer, WIR2016 | Tagged Informational Writing, writing exercises | 5 Replies

What the Teacher Was Thinking

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 1, 2016 by Sheila BenderOctober 2, 2016

Whatever our role in life, however well we perform in it, there is always the not knowing if we are doing it right, if what we are trying to accomplish will be accomplished. Sometimes that situation offers us a prompt … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2016 | Tagged writing exercises, writing inspiration | 6 Replies

23 Prompts for Revising

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 25, 2016 by Sheila BenderAugust 25, 2016

Author Joyce Carol Oates says, “The pleasure is the rewriting.” Author John Irving says, “More than a half, maybe as much as two-thirds of my life as a writer is rewriting. I wouldn’t say I have a talent that’s special. … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, The Working Writer, WIR2014, WIR2016 | Tagged revising writing | 1 Reply

20 Memoir and Personal Essay Writing Prompts

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 18, 2016 by Sheila BenderAugust 18, 2016

Exploring your life on the page is daunting whether you are writing short memoir (the personal essay) or a book-length manuscript. Where does one start? How does one choose the highlights for the story’s exploration? How does one find surprises? … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged memoir, personal essay | 8 Replies

Making Books from Lists Part II: Adam Diament’s Kosher Patents

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 11, 2016 by Sheila BenderAugust 11, 2016

Adam L. Diament, the author of Kosher Patents: 101 Ingenious Inventions to Help Jews be Jewish, is a practicing patent attorney in Beverly Hills, California. He earned a B.A. in Religious Studies with an Emphasis in Judaism from the University … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, The Working Writer, WIR2014, WIR2016 | Tagged Informational Writing | 1 Reply

Rants and Raves — A Great Writing Strategy from Karen Lorene

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 28, 2016 by Karen LoreneJuly 28, 2016

“If I’d only known what was in this book forty years ago, how much more money would I have made and how fewer problems would I have encountered?” Karen wonders. Isn’t that true for all of us in our lives—if … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Instructional Exercises, Reading for Writing, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged memoir, personal essay, writing exercises | 3 Replies

Writing the Dear Mom Letter with Deborah Berger

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 14, 2016 by Deborah BergerJuly 14, 2016

 Deborah Berger asked women to write letters about what they never told their mothers.  Ultimately, she edited a selection of the contributions, along with profiles of their authors, into Dear Mom, Women’s Letters of Love, Loss and Longing. In her … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged reading for writing, women's voices, writing exercises | 2 Replies

When Digital Isn’t Real: Fact Finding Offline for Serious Writers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 7, 2016 by Sheila BenderJuly 7, 2016

When Marlene Samuels found a publisher for her deceased mother’s World War II memoir, The Seamstress: A Memoir of Survival, her editor at Penguin-Berkeley had two conditions. She would have to ensure the accuracy of all the book’s facts (the … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged Informational Writing, reading for writing | Leave a reply

Excerpt from Richard-Gabriel Rummonds Fantasies & Hard Knocks, My Life as a Printer

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 30, 2016 by Gabriel RummondsJune 30, 2016

This book is a big one?in every way. In its 813 beautifully designed pages and over 450 gorgeous photos and images, a story unfolds not only of fine handpress printing but the man who printed works by many great 20th … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged memoir, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

A Revision Success Story: Developing “The Longest Walk” by Arla Shephard Bull

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 20, 2016 by Arla Shephard BullApril 18, 2021

Writing It Real member Arla Shephard Bull worked back and forth with me on developing an essay that was important to her to write. She had decided to use the third person as a way of distancing herself enough to … Continue reading →

Posted in Revisions - Sample Successes, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged personal essay, revising writing, women's voices | 3 Replies

Another Fall/Winter Winner: Afrose Ahmed’s “the world did end…we just didn’t notice”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 24, 2016 by Afrose AhmedMarch 24, 2016

Our fall/winter contest judge Stan Rubin was struck with the lyric qualities in Afrose Ahmed’s entry, “the world did end…we just didn’t notice.” He wrote in his comments: “A gorgeous piece of lyrical writing. The odd but wonderfully sustained angle … Continue reading →

Posted in Contest Winner, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | 2 Replies

Contest Winner — The Meditation Room

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 17, 2016 by Amanda NobleMarch 17, 2016

Stan Rubin, our guest contest judge, shares these remarks about his choice of Amanda Noble’s essay, “The Meditation Room”: A nuanced portrayal of the shifting stages of private grief––and its gradual acceptance. This process is depicted with precision, intelligence, and … Continue reading →

Posted in Contest Winner, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | 5 Replies

Fall/Winter Writing Contest: Emma Hunter’s “God’s Breath and Bolognese”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 10, 2016 by Emma HunterMay 19, 2017

Contest judge Stan Rubin, a master teacher, poet and friend of writing, wrote that Emma Hunter’s essay: Gracefully lives up to its rather daunting title, with wit and philosophical sweep. Concisely renders a dual vision — adult and child, the mundane and the cosmic — … Continue reading →

Posted in Essay Contest Testimonials, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged contest winner, personal essay, writing memoir, Writing Scenes | 4 Replies

Finding Form

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 3, 2016 by Sheila BenderMarch 3, 2016

Tarn Wilson delivered this paper for a panel on “Hydra-Headed Memoirs & Well-Connected Essays” at the 2015 Nonfiction Now conference. I am delighted to have her permission to post her words for Writing It Real readers. Tarn’s lovely memoir is … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Instructional Exercises, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged memoir, revising writing, writing advice, writing memoir | 1 Reply

Excerpt from Route 66, a Nonfiction/Fiction Book Project by Jack Heffron

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 25, 2016 by Sheila BenderFebruary 25, 2016

In this excerpt from Jack Heffron’s book project?that combines fiction and nonfiction, you’ll notice the strength of Jack’s?scenes and dialog, exactly the craft skills?he?will be teaching this year at the June 9-12 Writing It Real conference. In the book, Jack … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged dialog, fiction, scene building | 1 Reply

Excerpt From The Third Law of Motion, a Novel by Meg Files

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 18, 2016 by Sheila BenderFebruary 18, 2016

The opening of Meg Files’ fine novel The Third Law of Motion?introduces the?book’s first-person narrative as we enter protagonist Dulcie White’s life as a college-bound high school student. In alternating chapters throughout the book, the young woman’s sometimes boyfriend, a … Continue reading →

Posted in Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged women's voices, Writing Fiction, writing in persona | 2 Replies

Clear the Debris of Abstraction and Sentimentality

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 11, 2016 by Sheila BenderFebruary 11, 2016

As the Presidential candidates for nomination continue to gather followers with predictable phrases, and pundits attempt to predict who the will be the frontrunners, I am reminded of the importance of writing toward felt insight. We need to leave abstracting and sentimentality behind if we … Continue reading →

Posted in Instructional Exercises, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged Trusting Images, writing advice, writing inspiration | 3 Replies

In Conversation with Three Very Different Writers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 5, 2016 by Sheila BenderJuly 5, 2018

Every few months, I sit with sound engineer Charlie Fleishman at the studio of Port Townsend, WA’s all volunteer FM station KPTZ.org and record conversations with four writers. Each of these Sundays includes telephone conversations with writers from anywhere in … Continue reading →

Posted in Audio Interviews, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged podcast

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