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Tag Archives: writing life

The Long, Instructive Path to My Published Memoir

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 1, 2025 by Bill ThornessMay 1, 2025

[In this essay about writing and revising his memoir, author Bill Thorness generously shares his experience creating and publishing All Roads Lead to Rome: Searching for the End of My Father’s War –ED] Inspired by a cache of letters from … Continue reading →

Posted in 2025, From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2025 | Tagged memoir, revising writing, writing life, writing memoir | 1 Reply

On My Birthday, A Letter to Writing It Real Members

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 7, 2025 by Sheila BenderApril 4, 2025

This is the day I turned 77. It is a good day for review and reflection. I came to the writing life seriously when I began studying poetry as a non-matriculating student at the University of Washington near my home … Continue reading →

Posted in WIR2025 | Tagged on writing, writing inspiration, writing life | 2 Replies

The Journey to Fulfill the Dream of Becoming a Poet

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 3, 2023 by William MawhinneyAugust 3, 2023

For decades I jotted down phrases that captured images that came to me—a dollhouse staircase, a cat lapping sunlit water, or icicles reflecting a sunset like jeweled daggers—then stuffed them in folders or slid them in desk drawers. I never … Continue reading →

Posted in 2023, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged Afghan women writers, Trusting Images, writing life, Writing Poetry | 3 Replies

Barbara Simmons on Publishing Her First Volume of Poetry:  Offertories: Exclamations and Disequilibriums

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 4, 2023 by Barbara SimmonsMay 4, 2023

The how, when, where, and why of the process – (the who is my “collected” writing selves) Early in 2021, a full year into the pandemic, I signed up to listen to Canadian writer and self-described writing “mid-wife,” Traci Skuce … Continue reading →

Posted in 2023, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2014 | Tagged women's voices, writing life, Writing Poetry | 3 Replies

Interview with Alison Townsend, Author of The Green Hour: A Natural History of Home

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 1, 2022 by Alison TownsendDecember 1, 2022

I am excited to introduce you again to author and poet Alison Townsend. I have been reading her beautiful lyric prose and poetry for years. I admire her sense of place and nature in what she writes. With the publication … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Interviews | Tagged memoir, personal essay, Publishing, women's voices, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

Excerpt and Words from Brenda Miller About Her New Book A Braided Heart: Essays on Writing and Form

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 1, 2021 by Brenda MillerJuly 6, 2021

I am so pleased to share news of Brenda Miller’s new book, A Braided Heart: Essays on Writing and Form, available now for pre-order ahead of the July 13 release date. She has answered questions I posed to her and … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2021 | Tagged memoir, on writing, personal essay, trust your writing, writing life | 3 Replies

How and Why We Write

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 5, 2020 by Sheila BenderAugust 13, 2020

The Writing It Real March 2020 article is a compilation of writings by Writing It Real members on a topic dear to our hearts–how and why we write. EBook Formats We have 3 different formats. Which ones you choose depends … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, The Working Writer, WIR2020 | Tagged on writing, women's voices, writing life | 9 Replies

Keeping a Travel Journal You Love, Part 2 from Tarn Wilson

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 5, 2019 by Tarn WilsonJuly 5, 2019

NINE TRAVEL JOURNALING EXERCISES Exercise 1 – Ask For What You Want As one of my first entries, I set goals or ask for what I want from a trip. The activities are slightly different: setting goals implies I have … Continue reading →

Posted in The Working Writer, WIR2019 | Tagged writing exercises, writing life | 2 Replies

Staying in a Committed Relationship With Your Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 31, 2019 by Sheila BenderJanuary 31, 2019

According to Webster’s II New Riverside University Dictionary, commitment means “the state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to an ideal or course of action.” Emotionally or intellectually are good words for the writer to fuse. To keep on writing … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2019 | Tagged on writing, trust your writing, writing life | 5 Replies

The Light Had Been Shining

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 13, 2018 by Sheila BenderSeptember 13, 2018

When I was in third grade, my teacher asked me to write a Chanukah play to be presented along with a Christmas play for the kids in my class. I am not sure how she identified me as a writer. … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2018 | Tagged trust your writing, writing life | 4 Replies

Understanding Your Writing and Your Need to Write

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 29, 2016 by Sheila BenderDecember 29, 2016

How does one muster the courage to keep writing even when no one has asked for her to write? How does a writer handle restlessness and disappointment? The author Ralph Keyes writes in The Courage to Write: How Writers Transcend … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged writing advice, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

My Sure Fire Methods of Self-Sabotage (and What I’ve Done to Turn Them Around)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 22, 2016 by Sheila BenderDecember 22, 2016

We’ll soon be thinking about the New Year’s Resolutions we want to make for 2017. For those who write, at least one of those resolutions will likely be about finding more time to write. I know that’s what I’d like … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2016 | Tagged overcoming writer's block, writing advice, writing life | 2 Replies

In Conversation with Meg Files and Jack Heffron

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 8, 2016 by EllenNovember 2, 2016

We have two new podcasts ready for you to listen to. They are conversations with Meg Files and with Jack Heffron. It was fun and informative having two of my favorite writing and teaching colleagues as guests this summer on … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors | Tagged on writing, writing advice, writing career, writing life | Leave a reply

Excerpt from Richard-Gabriel Rummonds Fantasies & Hard Knocks, My Life as a Printer

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 30, 2016 by Gabriel RummondsJune 30, 2016

This book is a big one?in every way. In its 813 beautifully designed pages and over 450 gorgeous photos and images, a story unfolds not only of fine handpress printing but the man who printed works by many great 20th … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged memoir, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

What Have We Here: A Conversation with Susan Bono About Her New Collection of Essays

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 7, 2015 by Susan BonoJanuary 21, 2015

For writer and small press publisher (Tiny Lights) Susan Bono, the last thirty years have mostly been about trying to stay ahead of a husband, growing kids, aging parents, and an eccentric old house, in spite of detours, deadlines, unexpected changes, … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2015, Writers Building a Community of Readers | Tagged personal essay, women's voices, writing advice, writing life | 8 Replies

Interview with Memoirist Tarn Wilson, Part I: Reconstructing the Past

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 11, 2014 by Andrea ClausenJune 11, 2014

I am a person who saves things, from the obviously important letter my father wrote me right before he passed away to the “might need it someday” notes from middle school. I have shoeboxes of unorganized photographs, rocks and shells … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2014 | Tagged memoir, Publishing, women's voices, writing career, writing life, writing memoir | Leave a reply

On the Courage to Create

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 19, 2014 by Sheila BenderMarch 26, 2014

Creativity in one’s thinking and in one’s art is unsettling, both to the artist and to audiences. The courage to create must be born again and again.

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Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2014 | Tagged on writing, writing inspiration, writing life | 6 Replies

People Who Write — Sandra Hurtes’ Story of Blog to Book

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 15, 2014 by Sandra HurtesSeptember 27, 2022

Sandra Hurtes created a blog, felt she had a book there, and engaged in the process of selecting and shaping the entries and adding to the material to create a book-length account of herself as writer.  The result is the … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, Reading for Writing, WIR2013 | Tagged personal essay, Publishing, trust your writing, writing life, writing memoir | 2 Replies

From Idea to Publication: Rhonda Wiley-Jones on Her Memoir Project

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 5, 2013 by Rhonda Wiley-JonesNovember 5, 2013

When Writing It Real member Rhonda Wiley-Jones published her travel/coming-of-age memoir, parts of which she had worked on through Writing It Real contests and editorial help, I was eager to hear what she’d learned in her process of moving from … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2013 | Tagged memoir, Publishing, writing life, writing memoir | 3 Replies

First Place Winning Essay 2013 Writing It Real Spring/Summer Contest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 14, 2013 by Hildegard HingleAugust 14, 2013

This week we are proud to publish the first of three winning essays in our recent contest. In choosing Hildegard Hingle’s essay as the first place winner in Writing It Real’s 2013 spring and summer writing contest, guest judge Terry … Continue reading →

Posted in Literary Gallery, WIR2013 | Tagged contest winner, contest winning essay, memoir, writing life, writing memoir | 9 Replies

The Practice of Productivity

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 3, 2013 by Priscilla LongJuly 3, 2013

This week, I am pleased to re-post an excerpt from writer Priscilla Long’s excellent text The Writer’s Portable Mentor: A Guide to Art, Craft, and the Writing Life. I heartily agree with the many readers who find the book one … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2013 | Tagged writing advice, writing inspiration, writing life | 8 Replies

Interview with Memoirist Barbara McNally on The Writing of Unbridled: A Memoir

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 19, 2013 by Barbara McNallyJune 28, 2014

When otherwise good girl Barbara McNally is caught having an affair (for the second time), her marriage ends within weeks and with it, so does the image she created for her two teenaged girls and the man she married right … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, WIR2013, Writers Building a Community of Readers | Tagged memoir, on writing, Publishing, writing advice, writing life, writing memoir | 6 Replies

Writing the Situations Life Throws Your Way – An Interview with Thelma Zirkelbach

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 1, 2013 by Sheila BenderMay 2, 2013

Former romance writer Thelma Zirkelback has two books out now (and a blog) on the subject of widowhood, one an anthology she co-edited of writings by women who have coped with their new life situation (On Our Own: Widowhood for … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2013, Writers Building a Community of Readers | Tagged Informational Writing, memoir, personal essay, reading for writing, women's voices, writing advice, writing life | 3 Replies

On Writing and Publishing Poetic Memoir, An Interview

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 17, 2013 by Nancy Smiler LevinsonApril 17, 2013

Nancy Smiler Levinson set herself the goal of writing about what she was living through during her husband’s diagnosis of Alzheimer’s. The result was a powerful, filled with love, and ultimately affirming memoir, all in free verse, Moments of Dawn: a … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2013, Writing Makes a Difference | Tagged memoir, Publishing, writing life, Writing Poetry | Leave a reply

Facilitate Poetry’s Ulterior Purpose

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 10, 2013 by Sheila BenderApril 10, 2013

April is National Poetry Month. That means nationwide, the month of April is filled with even larger numbers of poetry related events than other months of the year. Hopefully, reading about them in your local newspapers and on websites will … Continue reading →

Posted in The Working Writer, WIR2013, Writers Building a Community of Readers, Writing Makes a Difference | Tagged writing life, Writing Poetry | Leave a reply

On Writing Memoir: Obsessions Digressions and Epiphanies

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 27, 2013 by Sandra HurtesMarch 27, 2013

Sandra Hurtes is the author of the essay collection, On My Way To Someplace Else and the chapbook RESCUE. Her essays and articles have appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post and Poets & Writers, among other publications. You … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, WIR2013 | Tagged memoir, on writing, personal essay, Trusting Images, writing advice, writing life | 4 Replies

Five Tips for Inspiring Quality Writing from Life Experience

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 13, 2013 by Sheila BenderDecember 13, 2018

Tip #1 — Find An Occasion Poet Stanley Plumly says that poems must weigh more at the end than they do at the beginning. As with poetry, the personal essay and memoir supply a vehicle for writers to find out what … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, The Working Writer, WIR2013 | Tagged on writing, writing advice, Writing Craft Tools, writing inspiration, writing life | 2 Replies

The Third Law of Motion – An Interview with Meg Files

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 23, 2013 by Meg FilesMarch 6, 2013

This week’s interview is with my colleague Meg Files about her process for writing The Third Law of Motion, her newest novel and the book’s impact on its audience. You can study with Meg at our April Writing It Real conference … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, WIR2013 | Tagged trust your writing, Writing Fiction, writing life, Writing Scenes | 4 Replies

Interview with Poet and Memoirist Kim Stafford

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 9, 2013 by KimStaffordJanuary 15, 2013

Memoirs are high on my reading list. Memoirs that tell authors’ stories of grieving and healing are at the top. This week, I am posting an in-depth interview with writer Kim Stafford, whose brother committed suicide. As a writer, Kim … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, WIR2013 | Tagged Kim Stafford, memoir, on writing, writing advice, writing inspiration, writing life | 4 Replies

Authornomics Interview with Sheila Bender

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 12, 2012 by Sheila BenderDecember 16, 2012

Authornomics is an author interview series created by Andrea Hurst and Associates agency. The August 16, 2012 interview I did for the series was chosen as one of their year’s best. The many good questions the agents there asked gave … Continue reading →

Posted in From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2012 | Tagged agent, Publishing, writing career, writing life | 3 Replies

Want to Start a Fresh Essay? Write From What is Unsolved

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 24, 2012 by Sheila BenderDecember 17, 2012

If you have been having difficulty finding topics or ways into the areas that you most want to explore in your writing, try the following exercise I developed from reading Rilke’s Letter to a Young Poet to refresh your approach … Continue reading →

Posted in Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2012 | Tagged narration, writing advice, writing life | 4 Replies

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