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Tag Archives: revising writing

The Long, Instructive Path to My Published Memoir

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 1, 2025 by Bill ThornessMay 1, 2025

[In this essay about writing and revising his memoir, author Bill Thorness generously shares his experience creating and publishing All Roads Lead to Rome: Searching for the End of My Father’s War –ED] Inspired by a cache of letters from my father that my mother allowed us to read after her passing, I decided to … Continue reading →

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Posted in 2025, From Our Contributors, The Working Writer, WIR2025 | Tagged memoir, revising writing, writing life, writing memoir

Moving an Essay Toward Completion — Pam Robinson’s “Table of Plenty”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 6, 2018 by Pam RobinsonSeptember 6, 2018

Pam Robinson’s entry into the fall 2011 Writing It Real contest is an essay about her memories of her mother’s cooking and life on a farm. As I spend time harvesting onions, potatoes, tomatoes, cucumbers, various beans, Asian pears and soon apples and second crop radishes from my own garden, I resonate with the harvest … Continue reading →

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Posted in Contest Winner, Reading for Writing, Revisions - Sample Successes, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2018 | Tagged contest winner, personal essay, revising writing

To Follow Your Words, Not Your Keys, Home

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 12, 2018 by Cyndi LloydJuly 12, 2018

Years ago, a poet friend of mine, Jim Mitsui, ended a poem with an image of people “following their keys home.” That image has lingered with me as a lesson about what the writing life saves us from, which is the dullness of always expecting the expected, and what it requires of us, which is … Continue reading →

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Posted in Revisions - Sample Successes, Sheila Bender On Writing, The Working Writer, WIR2018 | Tagged revising writing, Trusting Images, writing exercises, Writing Poetry

23 Prompts for Revising

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 25, 2016 by Sheila BenderAugust 25, 2016

Author Joyce Carol Oates says, “The pleasure is the rewriting.” Author John Irving says, “More than a half, maybe as much as two-thirds of my life as a writer is rewriting. I wouldn’t say I have a talent that’s special. It strikes me that I have an unusual kind of stamina.” I enjoy revising and … Continue reading →

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Posted in Instructional Exercises, The Working Writer, WIR2014, WIR2016 | Tagged revising writing

A Revision Success Story: Developing “The Longest Walk” by Arla Shephard Bull

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 20, 2016 by Arla Shephard BullApril 18, 2021

Writing It Real member Arla Shephard Bull worked back and forth with me on developing an essay that was important to her to write. She had decided to use the third person as a way of distancing herself enough to approach the topic of a painful family trip. Despite a question she had about that … Continue reading →

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Posted in Revisions - Sample Successes, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged personal essay, revising writing, women's voices

Finding Form

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 3, 2016 by Sheila BenderMarch 3, 2016

Tarn Wilson delivered this paper for a panel on “Hydra-Headed Memoirs & Well-Connected Essays” at the 2015 Nonfiction Now conference. I am delighted to have her permission to post her words for Writing It Real readers. Tarn’s lovely memoir is The Slow Farm. She uses her experience writing it to inform other writers about her … Continue reading →

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Posted in From Our Contributors, Instructional Exercises, Literary Gallery, WIR2015, WIR2016 | Tagged memoir, revising writing, writing advice, writing memoir

Wash and Shine the Fruit of Your Labor

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 13, 2015 by Sheila BenderMay 13, 2015

I believe that we write in three stages–we act as playful inventors on the page, move on to the task of shaping our experience, and finally edit what we have written. Although these stages sometimes overlap a bit, on the whole, they are best thought of as separate. Just as we must never short circuit … Continue reading →

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Posted in The Working Writer, WIR2015 | Tagged editing your writing, revising writing, writing advice, Writing Craft Tools

Before and After: Shaping a Personal Essay Using the 3-Step Response Method

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 6, 2015 by Marjorie FordMay 13, 2015

The back and forth you’ll read this week on the development of an essay-in-progress demonstrates the power of my three-step response method for helping writers revise. Years ago, Marjorie Ford sent me an essay-in-progress that she was having trouble developing to her satisfaction for meeting an upcoming anthology submission deadline. After I received her first draft, we immersed ourselves in the three-step response, back and … Continue reading →

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Posted in Revisions - Sample Successes, Sheila Bender On Writing, WIR2015 | Tagged personal essay, revising writing, Sheila Bender, Trusting Images

Get Real Response to Your Writing from Anyone

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 29, 2015 by Sheila BenderApril 29, 2015

We too often receive unhelpful, even harmful, response from first readers of our early drafts. We may feel our writing is being ripped apart or our readers are more interested in fixing punctuation and grammar than in our subject and feelings. Or we may hear, “That’s nice,” which is deflating and doesn’t really help us move deeper into our … Continue reading →

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How a Personal Essay Becomes Fully Manifest

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 24, 2014 by Betty ShaferSeptember 25, 2014

Betty Shafer asked me to read an essay about losing her adult son. It had been a year since she began the essay following an emotional author reading I gave at the Colorado Mountain Writer’s Conference she attended in June 2001. Wishing to include memories about her son John in a book she was making … Continue reading →

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Posted in Revisions - Sample Successes, WIR2014 | Tagged personal essay, revising writing, trust your writing

Suzan Huney’s “Choice Bits”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 5, 2002 by Suzan HuneyNovember 27, 2013

At a writing conference workshop on developing the personal essay, Suzan Huney read the draft of an essay spawned by thumbing through her address book.  Her musings on the people she found in her book led to memories of her grandmother’s address book and then to consulting it directly. As she continued her drafting process, … Continue reading →

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