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Category Archives: 2022

I Am Grieving Today 6/23/22

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 4, 2024 by Pam Hale TrachtaJune 29, 2024

I am grieving today. This week has brought a firestorm of events that are devastating for an elder with daughters and grandchildren. The January 6 hearings have been riveting, dignified, terrifying and clarifying.  If we don’t clear out all the … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Writing Makes a Difference | 3 Replies

The Great Latke Debate

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 29, 2022 by Marlene B. SamuelsDecember 29, 2022

Each year, exactly two weeks before Hanukkah and beginning the year our family immigrated to the U.S.A., Aunt Esther and Mom began their debates. We had moved to a suburb only a fifteen-minute drive from Esther, my mother’s sister. The … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged memoir, personal essay | 2 Replies

On the Third Night of Chanukah 2022

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 22, 2022 by Carol J BlatterDecember 22, 2022

I write this on Tuesday, the 20th of December 2022, the third of eight days, along with other Jews, that I will celebrate the holiday of Chanukah, the Festival of Lights. Each night at sundown we light the candles on … Continue reading →

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Hugs and Handshakes Can Be Wonderful Gifts

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 22, 2022 by David D. HorowitzDecember 22, 2022

Each holiday season I buy about six to eight gift cards, redeemable at a coffee shop or bookstore. I tape one gift card to a greeting card and mail it to a particular friend. The greeting cards are not holiday … Continue reading →

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Interview with Alison Townsend, Author of The Green Hour: A Natural History of Home

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on December 1, 2022 by Alison TownsendDecember 1, 2022

I am excited to introduce you again to author and poet Alison Townsend. I have been reading her beautiful lyric prose and poetry for years. I admire her sense of place and nature in what she writes. With the publication … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Interviews | Tagged memoir, personal essay, Publishing, women's voices, writing inspiration, writing life | 1 Reply

Nowhere But Up from Here

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 17, 2022 by Pat DetmerNovember 17, 2022

Nowhere But Up from Here Dinner was ready to serve. Turkey, dressing, spices, pumpkin pie … the traditional Thanksgiving smells wafted through my sister’s small suburban home. It was nearly dark out. The cloudy day had dampened the sunset and … Continue reading →

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My First Thanksgiving When Mom Was My GUEST!

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 17, 2022 by Barbara SimmonsNovember 17, 2022

It was the year I moved to Cambridge, Massachusetts, leaving the boarding school where I’d been teaching in western Massachusetts. I was living in an apartment – actually, the 2nd floor of an old home that had been carved into … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged memoir, personal essay, women's voices | 6 Replies

Turkey Musings by Writing It Real Member Mona Anderson

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2022 by Mona AndersonNovember 10, 2022

In autumn turkeys grace the field in front of our house almost daily.  Lately, these visitors, often up to twenty-five, have come closer to the house, maybe to forage fallen apples from the tree in the front yard.  Or maybe … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged memoir, narration, personal essay | 4 Replies

Thanksgiving at Our House by Writing It Real Member Suzy Beal

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2022 by Suzy BealNovember 10, 2022

“One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, hey, you guys, Mom made seven pies this time, two cherry, two apple and three pumpkin!  She made cinnamon rolls and bread, too.”  We had to wait to eat until Uncle Mac, Aunt Mim and the cousins arrived. The whole house was warm and damp with odors wafting … Continue reading →

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Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery, WIR2014 | Tagged memoir, narration, personal essay

It Wasn’t the Tryptophan by Writing It Real Member Patricia LaPointe

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 10, 2022 by Patricia LaPointeNovember 10, 2022

In mid-October 1969, my twin daughters were born a month early. After a few days in the hospital, we brought them home. What followed were days and nights filled with them drinking only an ounce or two of formula before … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged memoir, narration, personal essay | 2 Replies

Merle R. Saferstein Shares Her Knowledge of Legacy Writing and Why To Do It

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on November 3, 2022 by Merle R. SafersteinNovember 3, 2022

This month, I am pleased to introduce you to Florida author Merle R. Saferstein and her goal of helping others create legacy writing. She was director of educational outreach at the Holocaust Documentation and Education Center in Miami, FL and … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Reading for Writing, The Working Writer | Tagged journaling, memoir, personal essay | 1 Reply

Sheila Interviewed by James at Meet the Elite Free

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 25, 2022 by Sheila BenderOctober 25, 2022

As we end October, here is a link to a recent short (8-minute) interview podcast with me on why I write and why I believe in the value of facilitating others’ writing. I always enjoy writing about writing and why … Continue reading →

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Halloween by Sue Pace

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 20, 2022 by Sue PaceOctober 20, 2022

My husband was a schoolteacher and we lived in a very small town. He didn’t want our children trick-or-treating and I said we had to do something special for Halloween. So, we compromised. We seldom ate dinner at a restaurant … Continue reading →

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Marcia Breece of Publishing Partners in Conversation with Sheila Bender

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 13, 2022 by Sheila BenderOctober 13, 2022

40 minutes with Marcia Breece of Publishing Partners in Conversation with Sheila Bender offers writers a complete understanding of what a book designer and publishing partner can do for anyone interested in self-publishing. The information is also useful for small … Continue reading →

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Marlene Samuels Remembers a Terrifying Begger’s Night (Canada’s Halloween)

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on October 6, 2022 by Marlene B. SamuelsOctober 6, 2022

Things that Go Grrrr in the Night by Marlene Samuels One particular year, Beggar’s Night fell on a Saturday. As luck would have it, it also was the Saturday evening our parents had, uncharacteristically, left us home alone longer than … Continue reading →

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Writing It Real Member Julie Trout’s “Happier Halloweens”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 30, 2022 by JulieHayward-TroutSeptember 30, 2022

Happier Halloweens by Julie Trout Jake was happy with any holiday, but Kirsten had a favorite. Halloween. We dressed up, carved pumpkins, baked goodies, ate candy, and decorated the house with spiderwebs and green glitter. I loved watching my kids … Continue reading →

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Pat LaPointe Remembers A Very Green Halloween

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 29, 2022 by Patricia LaPointeSeptember 30, 2022

It Wasn’t Easy Being Green by Pat LaPointe Many people might call Mom “creative.” As a witness and often the “victim” of her creativity, I would define it as “wacko.” One would need no more proof of this distinction than … Continue reading →

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Back-to-School Memory from David Horowitz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 22, 2022 by David D. HorowitzSeptember 22, 2022

Conversation Starter by David D. Horowitz As a child, I always regretted the end of summer vacation. How I loved waking late, playing softball until dusk, and gathering afterward with friends for sodas, ice cream, and raucous conversation. School offered … Continue reading →

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Back-to-School Memory by Julia Blocksma

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 8, 2022 by Julia BlocksmaSeptember 8, 2022

Memoir:  First Grade by Julia Blocksma My enthusiasm knew no bounds: I was going to start first grade, in a school in America! After years in Lahore, Pakistan, where my father, a surgeon, had helped start a hospital just after World … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors, Literary Gallery | Tagged personal essay | 5 Replies

Kathy Harmon-Luber on Writing Her Book Suffering to Thriving: Your Tool Kit for Navigating Your Healing Journey

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on September 1, 2022 by Kathy LuberSeptember 1, 2022

I am pleased to publish my interview with author Kathy Harmon-Luber, a colleague, poet, and non-fiction writer whose book will touch many. Hearing from her on how she approached writing her book, organized her effort to write it, and then … Continue reading →

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Summer Memories by Mona Anderson and Linda Caplan

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 25, 2022 by Sheila BenderAugust 25, 2022

For our last week’s August posting two more Writing It Real members have sent in short essays about summer memories. I know you will relate and remember your own summer games and family time as you read. It is so … Continue reading →

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Suzy Beal and Michael Shurgot Write of Summer Memories

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 18, 2022 by Michael W. ShurgotAugust 20, 2022

My Parents’ House by Suzy Beal This twelve-hour drive begins in the dark hours of the early morning. Little girls strapped in their sleeping bags in the VW van, puppy at their feet in her box. Did I remember their … Continue reading →

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Summer Memories Essay by Writing It Real member Judy Kvinsland

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 11, 2022 by Judy KvinslandAugust 11, 2022

Outcomes By Judy Kvinsland The summer that I turned six years old, my parents bought our family home, a fifty-year-old shingled craftsman perched on a hillside in tiny Harper, WA on the Kitsap peninsula mainland, about seven miles from the … Continue reading →

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Summer Memory Essays by Sandra Hurtes, Lynne G. Tenbusch and Carol J. Wechsler Blatter

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on August 4, 2022 by Sheila BenderAugust 5, 2022

Last week I begged for more essays and here are three generously shared by Writing It Real members for our post this week. Thank you three! Love Anyway by Sandra Hurtes It was a hot night in August 1969. My … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay | 2 Replies

Nancy Levinson’s Poem and Sue Pace’s Essay Triggered by Summer Memories

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 29, 2022 by NancyLevinsonJuly 29, 2022

Meeting My Sister in the Big Easy                             For Maurine By Nancy Levinson It’s a sauna not inside outside it’s June in New Orleans after all yet my younger sister and I are weathering the stifling air laughing at vanilla … Continue reading →

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SUMMER MEANS BASEBALL! by David D. Horowitz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 14, 2022 by David D. HorowitzJuly 14, 2022

Writing It Real member David D. Horowitz offers his memories of playing softball and baseball as a child. We learn and remember that even our best memories can be tinged by the experience of difficult situations. Whether your own memories … Continue reading →

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It’s Not that You Make Things Up — You Notice Things, Patricia Hampl in “Timelessness”

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on July 7, 2022 by Sheila BenderJuly 7, 2022

It’s summer, oh, those lazy days. When was the last time you had one of those lazy days? If you are lucky, there were one or more of them and not too long ago. But with the political turmoil in … Continue reading →

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“Friends of Patience” Writing It Real Member Response to June Article

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on June 9, 2022 by David D. HorowitzJune 9, 2022

When times become threatening, dangerous, and oppressive, we must write to show our humanity and influence others to do the same. Writing It Real member David D. Horowitz shares his thoughts. I hope that encourages others to take to the … Continue reading →

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Write Grief, then Protest and Take Action

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 26, 2022 by Sheila BenderMay 26, 2022

Waking up each morning to learn what new horror has been committed inside this country, most often by white young men filled with hate, and what the NRA hypocritically says about their prayers and condolences while all the while they … Continue reading →

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What We Think of When We Think of May, Writings by Mona Anderson and David D. Horowitz

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on May 19, 2022 by Sheila BenderMay 19, 2022

I was delighted to receive submissions over this past week from Mona Anderson and David D. Horowitz, and I very much hope for more Writing It Real member writing to post next week as we close out May. It has … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay, reading for writing, Writing Poetry | 1 Reply

Michael Buschmohle on an Ellen Bass Poem and Barbara Simmons on an Amy Lowell Poem

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 26, 2022 by Sheila BenderApril 26, 2022

And we wind up National Poetry Month with two more short essays on impactful poems chosen by Writing It Real members. It has been a month of learning about poems new to us and poems to revisit. Thank you to … Continue reading →

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Judy Kvinsland Writes of Finding Mary Oliver’s Poem Just When She Needed It

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 14, 2022 by Sheila BenderApril 14, 2022

Thank you, Judy Kvinsland, for reminding us of just how important poetry is when we are grieving. The healing it offers deep into our experience is incomparable. And in times of need, it is miraculous that poetry reaches out to … Continue reading →

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My Mouth Hung Open by Sue Pace

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on April 7, 2022 by Sheila BenderApril 7, 2022

One of my Favorite Poems is “The Highwayman” by Alfred Noyes. It is too long to include in this letter but may be found at https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43187/the-highwayman. Hearing it read was the first time that I understood the power of poetry. … Continue reading →

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Writing It Real Member Richard Elam’s Letter About His Writing Life

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 31, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 31, 2022

We wrap up our epistolary writing for March with a joyful letter from Richard Elam about his writing life at age 93. Richard Elam Writes to My Husband and Me About His Writing Since He Moved from the Northwest to … Continue reading →

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Letters About Learned Experience From Writing Books

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 24, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 24, 2022

Whether we want to explain ourselves to readers and editors and thereby to ourselves or use what we lament about our publishing process to help others along the path in publishing, writing about it helps us as writers and builds … Continue reading →

Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay, women's voices, writing advice | 1 Reply

Letters About Writing Their Books by Desiree Woodland and Sheila Murphy

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 17, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 17, 2022

This week we post two letters by Writing It Real members about why they have or are writing their books, one by member Desiree Woodland to the people she hopes will read her book because of their contact with young … Continue reading →

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Two Epistolary Essays by Writing It Real Authors to Their Readers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on March 10, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

March epistolary essays have begun arriving. This week enjoy two Writing It Real members’ letters to their books’ audiences. Whether you are writing to explain yourself to your audience (and thus to yourself) when it comes to the book you have written, are writing or would write, or trying to give those who might read … Continue reading →

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Posted in 2022, From Our Contributors | Tagged personal essay, writing exercises

Three More Epistolary Essays: to Memory, to Wisdom, to a Former Professor

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 24, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

Here are three more epistolary works to round out our February posts. I hope you will leave the author comments at the article’s end and go to the other postings from February to read even more from Writing It Real members. Be sure to check out the challenge for March (any writing I receive by … Continue reading →

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Two More Epistolary Apology/Regret Essays

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 17, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

Our February epistolary writing posts continue this week.! I am grateful to Marlene Samuels and Kurt VanderSluis (co-founder of Writing it Real) for their pieces, Marlene’s to her mother, and Kurt’s to his father. Each piece is poignant and addresses loss. Marlene’s loss is of her mother’s presence and wisdom as Marlene herself becomes a … Continue reading →

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Epistolary Apologies -Writing by David Horowitz and by Sheila Bender

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 10, 2022 by David D. HorowitzMarch 10, 2022

We are off to a good start for our February epistolary writing! I am grateful to David Horowitz for writing a piece for us to post this week. I also tried my hand at writing in this form and am posting my letter as well. I hope to hear from more of you. Here again … Continue reading →

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Writing Inspiration from Victoria Chang’s Epistolary Essays in Dear Memory

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on February 3, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

Dear Mother, Dear Father, Dear Sister, Dear Brother, Dear Grandmother, Dear Grandfather, Dear Aunt, Dear Uncle, Dear Friend, Dear Neighbor, Dear Librarian, Dear Doctor, Dear Professor, Dear Roommate, Dear EX, Dear College Advisor, Dear Therapist— Who in your life had supportive, quality advice for you that you couldn’t follow and for what reason? Parental pressure, … Continue reading →

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Posted in 2022, The Working Writer | Tagged writing exercises, writing inspiration, writing memoir, Writing Poetry

Pat LaPointe and Marie Hartung Write Open Letters to Those Who Tried to Discourage Them From Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 27, 2022 by Sheila BenderJanuary 27, 2022

This week we finish off our January postings with two more open letters to those who tried to discourage our writing. I think you will enjoy these two and hope you catch up on reading the others posted all month. … Continue reading →

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Another Two New Letters to Those Who Discouraged Us About Our Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 20, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

I am so happy to be posting two more letters to those who discouraged you as writers. I know we all resonate with these situations. And again, I hope to see more of these letters in my inbox by 1/25 for posting in next week’s Writing It Real. Here are the two for this week: … Continue reading →

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Two More Letters to Those Who Attempted to Discourage Us as Writers

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 13, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

This week’s writings come to us via members Howard Tanzman and Julie Hayward-Trout. You will relate and you will chuckle after you’ve read them both, and who doesn’t need to feel affirmed and amused to balance the ship of authorship? Thank you both for submitting work. I hope additional members will be inspired to keep … Continue reading →

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Three Letters to People or Entities Trying to Dampen Their Enthusiasm for Writing

Sheila Bender's Writing It Real Posted on January 6, 2022 by Sheila BenderMarch 10, 2022

This month we have three examples so far of letters to persons or entities who have tried to dampen enthusiasm for writing with criticism, by limiting opportunities or by nurturing self-doubt. Thank you Writing It Real members David D. Horowitz, Harriet Cannon and Pat Detmer. I know WIR members will enjoy your words as have … Continue reading →

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